I Think Girls Hate Me Now...

[Jenn1214 120]

I was at a get together at my brother's house over the weekend. A lot of the people there were in his and his wife's bridal party with me last summer, but I haven't seen many of them for several months. A few of the former bridesmaids were commenting on how great I look, but I was a little taken aback by my sister in law's cousin's reaction. She walks in, sits near me, and doesn't say a word to me. She's usually very friendly so I was a little confused. Then someone mentioned how much weight I've lost and she said "Yeah, she's a b***h isn't she?" in a joking-but-not-really kind of way. Then she goes back to ignoring me. I didn't let it get to me, but I was a little hurt by it. I guess this is what I'm going to have to put up with now?

[SashaWLS 412]

sounds like she was so jealous she couldn't stand it... sorry you had to deal with that, but it sounds like she's got issues...

[lovex5 25]

i have heard all the stories from people about how friends (especially women) act afterwards. some of it isnt pretty. i think some people have pointed it out best to me that when someone you're close to loses weight it can evoke different reactions. maybe to them you were the trusty "big girl" friend that they always felt superior to. or maybe you are now smaller than them and it's forcing them to see their own weight problem etc. i think you look great and hope this wont hold you back. you are doing this for you and no one else. if that snotty chick cant handle it then too bad for her. i would have had to bite my tongue to keep from saying something totally childish like "takes a b*tch to know one huh?" hahaa!

[honk 780]

Some people esp. women don't like it when someone challenges their place in the social order. Is she thin? Does she think you are a "threat" to her? Really vain women want to be the prettiest in the room. Fat girls are'nt competition and are not seen at a threat to their social position. Once you are no longer fat you become competition.

[yellowrose88 43]

Glad it didn't affect you and you let it roll off your back. Yep sounds like she is jealous.

[JustDoIt130 369]

Sounds like a compliment,LOL- I agree, she's probably jealous- whatever, not your problem!!!! You go, girl!!!!

[Allison0927 329]

Very interesting - and very clearly jealousy. Don't be too hard on her though - her comment aside - it came from a sad/dark/bitter place and it's no fun to feel that way. I remember over the years being jealous of a few girls that lost a lot of weight - but i was also genuinely happy for them at the same time and would have never, ever said what your SIL said. Nowadays when my friends say anything at all to me (and i know they love me and are just "keeping it real") about being the skinny b***h etc. I know it's ok - that i went through that feeling too and I forgive them for being jealous because i do know they deeply care about me - we've all been through too much together. One thing though that I am guilty of is not feeling a bit sorry for others who are jealous because unless their insurance will not cover the procedure - which is possible in some cases - the only thing holding them back from doing the surgery like i did is their fear of it - and i bit the bullet and did it - the greatest risks often yield the greatest rewards - so, in short, most of the time, being the "skinny b***h" like me (or like i will be in 18 pounds to goal - ha!) is in their own hands and it's their "fault" if they don't pursue it like i did.

[pink dahlia 2,513]

OUCH !! sorry you had to deal with a bitchy SIL, but hey, its not your fault she has issues ! I agree with all the other post's, she's the one with the problem, not you. You look great , by the way and you've put alot of hard work, time and effort into getting yourself healthy Way to go !! Congratulations !!! .I think she's insecure because all of a sudden YOU were the center of attention, not HER !!!! Some people cant deal with it when they are'nt constantly being acknowledged or noticed ALL. THE. TIME. ( Sigh....................I work with one of them.................)