Tired Of Hearing About Failures...

[Jean McMillan 2,973]

Thank you for that Mrs. Jean. I do need to have a heart to heart with her. My husband tells me the same thing. He had his surgery in January and mine was 2.5 months later. So, he tells me to buck up. I'm doing great and that no one's opinion should matter but his. But truth be known, it does bother me. I have gone as far as avoiding her. I know something will be said, so I just avoid her all together.

Of course her opinion is bothering you....she's your friend! Avoiding her is OK, but if truly value her friendship, at some point you may want to ask her how she feels and if there's something you can do (besides sabotaging your own weight loss) to help her and to renew the friendship.

[Jean McMillan 2,973]

It is really interesting how the same people who tell you that you're fat or overweight and NEED to lose weight are the same people who tell you NOT to get the band. I avoided telling anyone because I already knew the response would be "Don't do it!" I had friends and total strangers tell me that. My wife had let the cat out of the bag to a few of my friends a couple days before my surgery, and those were the exact words I heard.

But heck, my primary doctor was included in this group. I went to him a month before and told him of my plans and his response was

Dr: You're overweight, need cholesterol meds, sleep apnea device, and BTW get your ass to the gym. OH and here's some anxiety pills...

Me: but wait Dr. I have already looked into LAP-BAND...

Dr: oh no that's highly dangerous and I will not approve of that. But hey, don't forget these pills I perscribed.

Hopefully, we'll prove them ALL wrong.

LOL! Sounds like your PCP is cut from the same piece of cloth as my ex-PCP! "No, Jean, you don't need something as drastic as surgery..." "Jean, if you would just exercise...." "Jean, here's another diet to follow..." "And here's a refill for your cholesterol medication..."

I did indeed prove him wrong, and I also found myself a new doctor. The only exercise I've ever seen the original one do was lift his fork from his plate to his mouth at a Mexican restaurant. He's morbidly obese himself...so if his approach doesn't work for him, why would it work for me?