Failing!!!

[Anglkrys2 24]

2 weeks! That's all it took!! I'm failing!! I am hungry and eating regular! I make myself sick!! I am two lbs up! All I keep hearing is my nurse saying to me "wow 16 lbs! Good for u! You'll be under 200 in no time". That was tuesday! I'm having trouble with the foods this week and next! I hate yogurt, cottage chez, and farina!!!! It doesnt help that I am PMSING bad! And before any one judges that, ever since I took fertility drugs my periods r like I'm pregnant! I need chips and chocolate !!! I HATE chips!!! This is really sad! I feel pathetic!!!

[monicaleigh 27]

okay...lets take a step back for a minute and try to relax! You have had the band two weeks right? and you say your failing? You havent even given yourself time to succeed! for the first 3 weeks after surgery even on a liquid diet i didnt lose a pound...my body was in shock and yours probably still is as well..So dont get extremely discouraged because your not loosing. as far as gaining two pounds, my doctor forwarned me that i might gain a few pound initially.Everyones body is different and reacts differently to surgery. As far as the foods go..you need to stick with what they told you to eat. Its challenging but no one said it would be easy right? My advice to you with feeling hungry and like you want chips and chocolate is this...Your going to want those things, especially when you (like most of us) are probably use to eating them pre-band. But you have to focus changing your mindset..how you view food and how you view yourself as a person.

Ive seen so many people on here and in my town who have had the lapband and not been successful but it wasnt because they didnt have the option of success..it was because they never changed their habits. Eating habits..mind set about food..exercise..all of those things start in your mind. You have got to be mind over matter in order to have success. The lapband is not a miracle fix, it is a tool that will help you if you use it properly.. i would advise finding a buddy if you dont have one..someone to be accountable to and that can help you deal with some of these emotions..they are normal and most of us have gone thru them at one point or another in our journey!...last but no least! You only FAIL when you allow failure to be an option! If you give up and you throw in the towel..you failed. but as long as you keep trying and pushing towards that goal that you for yourself, you are NOT a failure!

[Anglkrys2 24]

okay...lets take a step back for a minute and try to relax! You have had the band two weeks right? and you say your failing? You havent even given yourself time to succeed! for the first 3 weeks after surgery even on a liquid diet i didnt lose a pound...my body was in shock and yours probably still is as well..So dont get extremely discouraged because your not loosing. as far as gaining two pounds' date=' my doctor forwarned me that i might gain a few pound initially.Everyones body is different and reacts differently to surgery. As far as the foods go..you need to stick with what they told you to eat. Its challenging but no one said it would be easy right? My advice to you with feeling hungry and like you want chips and chocolate is this...Your going to want those things, especially when you (like most of us) are probably use to eating them pre-band. But you have to focus changing your mindset..how you view food and how you view yourself as a person.

Ive seen so many people on here and in my town who have had the lapband and not been successful but it wasnt because they didnt have the option of success..it was because they never changed their habits. Eating habits..mind set about food..exercise..all of those things start in your mind. You have got to be mind over matter in order to have success. The lapband is not a miracle fix, it is a tool that will help you if you use it properly.. i would advise finding a buddy if you dont have one..someone to be accountable to and that can help you deal with some of these emotions..they are normal and most of us have gone thru them at one point or another in our journey!...last but no least! You only FAIL when you allow failure to be an option! If you give up and you throw in the towel..you failed. but as long as you keep trying and pushing towards that goal that you for yourself, you are NOT a failure![/quote']

Thank u! I know u are right! I am lactose intolerant so a lot of these foods make me sick! Ughh!! Tomorrow is a new day!!!! Tomorrow is a new day!!!!!

[LULU TATT 18]

OMG!!! U R TOTALLY SCARING ME RIGHT NOW...I AM GOING TO TRY AND GET BANDED AND AM IN THE BEGINNING PHASE TO THE EXTENT THAT I AM JUST NOW ABOUT TO GO TO THE SEMINAR...BUT I'M SCARED I MAY END UP FEELING LIKE YOU AND GOING THRU THE SAME THING WHICH WOULD THEN MAKE THIS A WASTE OF TIME FOR ME...MY QUESTION TO YOU IS: IS IT EVEN WORTH IT??? IS IT REALLY THAT CHALLENGING TO DEAL WITH THE PROCESS OF CHANGING YOUR LIFESTYLE??? IDK...I HAVE SO MANY EMOTIONS RIGHT NOW....

[waitingpatiently 250]

Hi LuLu,

welcome to the group, bandsters have good days and bad days....If you are wanting the band for a "easy" way out...its not. You have got to be willing to work at it. You have got to be willing to change bad habits and be open to creating new healthy ones.

The band will be as successful as you let it be.....if you are determined to eat those "bad" foods, then then you will find a way to get them down. If you aren't willing to committ to seeing your surgeon regularly in the begining,....you won't find restriction and will continue to eat too much.

BUT if you are willing to follow a few rules, then success is in your future.

I'm only about a month out, and It is already the best thing to happen to me in a long time.....I feel 5 years younger already!!

So spend some time and educate yourself on the bandster's way of life......its not for everyone, but if you are willing to committ to it......you wont regrett it.

[monicaleigh 27]

I dont know if you were asking me or anglkrys but You dont need to be scared! You just need to go ahead and start trying to change your habits and mindset preband and it makes it so much easier post band...and i cant answer the question "is it worth it" thats something you need to ask yourself..and if you really cant say..then its probably going to be a tough thing post band..i can say it was worth it for me but i wanted it..and not just the band but i wanted to change my health overall and i was willing to do what it took in order to accomplish that. And YES it is challenging! But so are so many other things in life. Its a personal decision that only you can make and only you can decide if your ready for it!.. Like i said earlier to many people expect a miracle from the band...its not a miracle fix. its a tool, and in order for it to work you have to use it properly! You cant get the band and then continue eating junk food and fried food and other unhealthy stuff all day everyday just in smaller portions...thats not going to work for the long haul..thats why i saying its a lifestyle change and a mindset change that only we ourselves can make! Goodluck and i wish the best in your journey, both of you! And if you ever need someone to talk with or have questions about my experiences and journey please feel free to firned me and send me a message anytime!

[shuckybucky 107]

Seriously you can't fail at something in two weeks. Relax and let the band work. Most people including myself do not even feel any difference until their 3 to 4th fill. Most seem to gain weight the first few weeks but remember they put a lot of fluids in during surgery and there is a lot of swelling and your body is trying to figure out what to do. You will be hungry until you get to a certain point with your fills but it usually isn't after 1 fill. Try to stick with your program for food as best you can and quit trying so hard. I ate a lot of poscicles and still do to get over the humps when i can't seem to stay full. The main focus is Portion Control and Protein. You will be ok.

[shuckybucky 107]

Lulu.... It is not a miracle. It will take work and it is not easy. You still have to watch what you eat and how much you eat. The band is just another tool in your toolbox. I can tell you that it hasn't been easy. It has been as hard as trying to lose it without the band but I have a little more control with the band. If you are looking for something that you get and then just wait for "it" to make you lose weight then NO this will not work and will not be worth it. If you have made up your mind that you are changing your lifestyle FOREVER and this is just to help you then yes you will be successful and it will be worth it. For me it has been worth it but the weight loss has been slow and i have had to work hard at it.

[Anglkrys2 24]

OMG!!! U R TOTALLY SCARING ME RIGHT NOW...I AM GOING TO TRY AND GET BANDED AND AM IN THE BEGINNING PHASE TO THE EXTENT THAT I AM JUST NOW ABOUT TO GO TO THE SEMINAR...BUT I'M SCARED I MAY END UP FEELING LIKE YOU AND GOING THRU THE SAME THING WHICH WOULD THEN MAKE THIS A WASTE OF TIME FOR ME...MY QUESTION TO YOU IS: IS IT EVEN WORTH IT??? IS IT REALLY THAT CHALLENGING TO DEAL WITH THE PROCESS OF CHANGING YOUR LIFESTYLE??? IDK...I HAVE SO MANY EMOTIONS RIGHT NOW.... <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' />

Lulu, I did not mean to scare u! So sorry about that! Last night was a low for me! Today is a new day! I am being more positive today! I was told I would not be as hungry as before!!! This is what I was hoping for because I have a lot of stomach issues and unfortunately, some of these foods kill me! Someone told me to that I have to eat them.....I can't!!! I will figure it out!! I am determined to live to see my kids have kids so I need to figure it out! I am emotional due to pms so I sure that has a part of my rant last night! It's not a miracle!!!! I never expected it to be! I expected it to help though! Do ur research! I was too scared to do mine....I was even roomed with a women who had hers removed when I had mine done! Soooo I kind of started this out negative!! I am going to turn this around! I'm sure u will be better at this than me! I'm a baby!!!! Lol. Ttyl