I Am Crying As I Write This...

[rae.holmes 12]

For the past 23 years I've been an emotional eater, and now that I am a month post op I can't eat my emotions and I am sad ALL THE TIME! I went for my first fill today and lost weight, I should be happy. But I can't stop crying!

I mean I am a 23 year old junior college sophomore, who hasnt had a date since my ex fiance married someone else (a month after we broke up) I have a part time job and I live at home.

I dont have alot to be happy right now, and I just.. I dont know!

I guess I'm just reaching out for some support, lol I could use a hug!

[msshep7 5]

Huuuuugggggsssss! I think all women feel that way sometimes. Now take 5 mins. and cry. Then go wash your face and try it again. Think of how we are going to look and feel when we stay on the path of this journey. You are not alone.

[Back~To~Amy 307]

Aaww Rae, I'm sorry you are going through such a rough times. I'm sending virtual hugs your way. It sounds like you really need them. I haven't had surgery yet, but I did lose 75 pounds years ago only to regain double it so I know the emotional struggle you are going through with food. Also, I quit smoking too over 6 years ago and remember being so depressed that I had "lost my best friend". How sick is that? It's really is all part of the process of the journey. I had the same kind of emotions about food and about cigarettes and will go through it with food again at some point. What you are experiencing is normal and it will pass. Hang in there. Learning how to have a normal relationship with food isn't easy. Congrats on the weight you lost! Take Care!

[xavier 153]

Poor thing....this emotional time is very normal as you are on the edge of something so diiferent and both hopeful and scary. I am guessing exfiance didnt treat you like the goddess you are...yur band and weight loss will cahnge that...not because you become skinny and gorgeous but because you will learn to love yourself and not associate with people who dont value you!

The other thing is, as I think you know, food is anesthesia...when you can no longer use it to hide your feelings from yourself you will have to deal with them...hang in there...scream and cry -there is nothing wrong with either...it really does get better as you move toward your goals, and learn to love yourself!

[MCCLB 16]

I'm sorry you are feeling down. I've been dealing with depression for over a year now and it's no fun. In November I finally sought counseling and in December I started taking anti-depressants. It might be something worth looking into for you. Maybe ask your doc for a referral or contact a counseling center that accepts your insurance. It sounds like you could use someone to talk to. Good luck!

[bev712 28]

I also disagree that this is normal. It sounds to me that you're very depressed and need professional help. If your doctor has a psychologist on staff, call for an appointment. If not, call the office for a referral to a psychologist who understands baratric surgery patients. Do it now, before you feel worse.

[otters38 31]

Oh, this breaks my heart!! Probably because I have been there. I think we all have at one time or another. It is a crazy adjustment to not have food there as your crutch. It forces you to look deeper into things/feelings and that is very scary. I am right there with you. I agree with the other poster who mentioned counseling. I think you would be amazed the things they can make you think about as these thoughts pass through your mind. It is always good to just to get someone else's perspective. I too am a fan of meds. I take them for anxiety/depression. It just helps to take the edge off. It isn't going to cure you or make you instantly happy, it just helps you to face whatever you are delaing with and get the help you need.

My other suggestion....go do something that makes you feel GOOD....manicure, pedicure, massage, but a new skinny outfit, purse, shoes, etc.

You can do this!! Show that ex boyfriend of yours what he missed out on!! Don't let him take space up in your heart and mind. He's not worth it! YOU ARE!!

[honk 780]

I'm sorry to hear your having a bad time. As to the Ex if he married someone else a month after your breakup consider this a lucky break! Just imagine finding out he was cheating on you AFTER you were married. Once a cheater always a cheater he will cheat on HER sooner or later. Good Ridance.

[Cocoabean 430]

Does your school offer any type of counselling? You need to find other ways of coping with your emotions. There are other skills you can learn. If you have insurance, it might cover it, also.

You don't have to suffer. See if you can get help!

[readytogoforit 172]

My 1st advise to you is get up and start moving. I have been to shrink so much of my life - depression tries to "get" me every year. My doc always listened as I spoke of the "stuff" that made me sad, then he reminded me that physical activity really helps. You don't have to do anything strenuous, just get up and move. walk with your Ipod and some fun uplifting tunes! Give it a try, see if it helps.

You are just beginning a very new way of living, let this great change happen to you!

keep in touch, we are all happy to listen.

[jenn3480 5]

You have a lot to be happy about! You have started a new chapter in your life, one that some others only wish they could have. You are in college getting an education and you are beautiful!

I agree that counseling might help. Even if they don't prescribe anything for you or you don't want to take meds, having somebody to talk to one-on-one is always helpful.

I hope you feel better knowing that there are others out here that feel your pain and understand completely!

Good luck!

[jenn3480 5]

You have a lot to be happy about! You have started a new chapter in your life, one that some others only wish they could have. You are in college getting an education and you are beautiful!

I agree that counseling might help. Even if they don't prescribe anything for you or you don't want to take meds, having somebody to talk to one-on-one is always helpful.

I hope you feel better knowing that there are others out here that feel your pain and understand completely!

Good luck!

[TinaMarieB 7]

For the past 23 years I've been an emotional eater' date=' and now that I am a month post op I can't eat my emotions and I am sad ALL THE TIME! I went for my first fill today and lost weight, I should be happy. But I can't stop crying!

I mean I am a 23 year old junior college sophomore, who hasnt had a date since my ex fiance married someone else (a month after we broke up) I have a part time job and I live at home.

I dont have alot to be happy right now, and I just.. I dont know!

I guess I'm just reaching out for some support, lol I could use a hug![/quote']

So sorry you are sad! I think whenever a person makes a big change, it is disconcerting. You are taking care if YOU! Good job, girl! As you get healthier you will make new friends. Just enjoy them!

Also, I went and found a counselor that has hoed tremendously with this transition. If you are at college, please check in to your student services or healthcare, whatever they call it. You need someone to talk to right now. You deserve to feel good about yourself and your choices. Write back again, ok?

[TinaMarieB 7]

P.S. here's a hug???…

[Holly Dolly 575]

ah, big hugs coming at you! Hang in there, it will get better! Weight shouldn't be something that brings us down, it's not what defines us as a person really. But for some stupid reason it does for many people. I honestly didn't think it really affected me before my weightloss surgery but now that I have lost a few lbs I do feel so much better about myself. It has changed my realtionship with my hubby for the better, I enjoy doing things that I avoided before. I still scream and yell at my kids about school work, etc....I wish that part would change! Maybe after today's one hour meeting with my boy's counselor and that will change too! Best wishes to you. Keep the faith and know that everyone is here for your support.