Dating And Self Disclosure

[neenee717 37]

I'm in a new dilemma. Weight loss, new fabulous me. I'm wondering when to disclose about band. I'm not ashamed o being banded but I don't walk around singing from te mountain tops.

My issue is like today: I went on a lunch date and even though was hungry I managed to get down 3 cheese sticks and couple sips of tea. I was full as a tick. My date noticed I didn't eat much and that I don't drink from straws. He's like you need to eat next time we go out and I'm like "I don't eat alot" I just had fill 2 wks ago and I am really tight some days.

What to do fellow bandsters?

[1shauna1 129]

Good question and I'm sorry I don't have an answer for you! Sadly, I haven't been on a date since being banded, but have often thought about what to do in that situation. Maybe for the next date you could plan something that doesn't involve eating? Some sort of sport or activity?

[icestorm12132008 39]

why not just tell them the truth? If the person wants to see you again for another date he might wonder why you don't eat like "everyone else". Sometimes a little chat is all it takes.

[honk 780]

Are you able to eat 3 oz of solid Protein? If not you are too tight. In general I would say decline apps and just get a small meal or order an app AS your meal.

[judych 225]

Are you able to eat 3 oz of solid Protein? If not you are too tight. In general I would say decline apps and just get a small meal or order an app AS your meal.

great idea.

[neenee717 37]

I can eat a small meal but I've been banded 18 mos and when I'm premenstrual band tightens and doc says that's normal swelling. It usually passes.

The app was my meal. I think I'm gone tell him soon b/c we are going out again this wknd.

Just wondering

[readytogoforit 172]

he will wonder if you get to the point that he touches you. the port feels odd.

you have lost so much weight, I'd share!

[AlienBandit 10]

I dont tell anyone I am banded. I also try to keep it from any new boyfriends for a long as possible just because it is my body and do we need to tell them of all allergies, food preferences etc? No? Well ok then carry on.

When I go out for meals, if it is something that is hard to eat I have a tea before or something to help open me up. I try to choose places that have more sliders ( like curry) or Soups so I can fill up on those.

Since I am 20 lbs from my goal weight and on the high side of a healthy BMI I can say I eat like a bird and its ok. I also tend to use oh im not that hungry excuse or try to share a meal.

If I go out some meal ideas are salads, Soups, curry, high in veggie meals, etc. The thing that works the best for me to get outta stares is sharing meals.

[newme2012 31]

I would wait. I don't feel like it should ruin the relationship at all. But get it out there see how he feels maybe he will be ur biggest supporter. Good luck