Jachut 487 Posted February 9, 2012 You know, it was so easy to just start another diet. Because deep down, I knew nothing would change. I wouldnt have to face my fears, my issues, I wouldnt truly change my eating habits, the status quo would remain and my obesity and my eating would fulfil the same (unidentified) needs it always did. Getting banded - now THAT was hard. Because I knew this was it, everything had to change and for once in my life I really had to face up to what I had become and what I was going to have to do to be what I wanted to be. It doesnt matter if nobody understands that. Their judgements dont touch me, I dont care personally. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kll724 3,055 Posted February 9, 2012 Thanfully, I have not had anyone say something like this to me! Everyone seems very supportive. If they have an opinion, they have kept any hurtful stuff to themselves. I agree, an unfriend would be good! Best wishes to you and all of us struggling with weight issuses! Karen Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JustDoIt130 369 Posted February 9, 2012 You know, it was so easy to just start another diet. Because deep down, I knew nothing would change. I wouldnt have to face my fears, my issues, I wouldnt truly change my eating habits, the status quo would remain and my obesity and my eating would fulfil the same (unidentified) needs it always did. Getting banded - now THAT was hard. Because I knew this was it, everything had to change and for once in my life I really had to face up to what I had become and what I was going to have to do to be what I wanted to be. It doesnt matter if nobody understands that. Their judgements dont touch me, I dont care personally. Wow, Jachut, that is exactly how I felt!! Now, I have done this somewhat drastic thing and I'm not going to fail at it! I can lose slowly, I can have plateaus, but I am not in this to be average. Before, I would gorge and think, "I'll start my diet tomorrow." Now, it's tomorrow and I will make it happen! And that's why, even though it was hard, I was glad for the 6 months it took to do the approval, because I was able to deal with some things and really commit. I know I'm not done with dealing with my issues, but I went into this with my eyes open, knowing it was not a magic bullet (but I have nicknamed my band magic, LOL). Like my 17 year old says, make your haters your motivators. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Grider 92 Posted February 9, 2012 Haters that are against you bettering your self in ANY way get a check off list of my book- I do not have time for them. I mostly know who they are beforehand, but some times you get surprised. and then you dont have to stand up for yourself or give an explanation- walk away and save yourself the stress of an unwanted comeback. Haters are unhappy folks, and you will not change them. This is your life, and your best decision for self, nobody needs to explain it, unless maybe it is for mom or dad who may fear for you in some way and you just calm them with an explanation. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mizpk83 9 Posted February 9, 2012 This is what I call HATERS....when you drop more and post your pictures she will be the main one asking you the details on the bad. Im not banded but when people start asking I am sorry I will only share that I made a lifestyle change and watching my portions of what I am eating. Many people thrive on the cons, lapband is 10x safer than any other surgery. Tell her to do her research and mind her business. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
twi 40 Posted February 9, 2012 People that haven't researched this always think its easy. They don't knw about fills , the difference between lb and the surgerys for wt loss. And most friends either are jealous and want the surgery, are ignorant to lb or they are afraid that you will change and they will loose you 1 mizpk83 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites