Struggling, Help

[mdr7205 0]

hello, i have had my band for almost 2 yrs now. i got sick in september and they had 2 take my fill out. i was at an eight and after i got better they put me at a six. i was struggling with the fact of the weight not coming off like i thought it would and now even worse i have gained. i started at 234lb and was at 170lb, i go tomorrow to see my dr assistant. by weighing at home ive gained 15-20lbs. talk bout frustrating but then it gets even harder for me. i have 3 other friends that have had the procedure done, 2 of them were after i had it done. i had talked to them about how great it was, and now not so great. they have all been at a 6 and with in a year look amazing, and have lost way more than i have in 2 yrs. i know we all lose differently, but seriously, i cry when i see pictures of them and how great they did, and wounder why not me, what did i do wrong? so im trying find somebody else that has possibly had the same thing happen, because right now i feel really alone, and all i keep finding on the internet is success stories or topics not close to what im feeling or dealing with.

[B-52 7,113]

One thing you did not mention...are you an active person, go the gym? Do a lot of outside activities?

Or are you a couch potatoe.

It always comes down to calories in versus calories burned!

The band is there to restict our calories in.

[Humming Bird 275]

When you say you were at an eight and now you are at a six are you talking fills/ cc? It sounds to me like you need to go get a fill and get back to the green zone (if you were ever there).

[Dulci 108]

You can't compare yourself with your friends. It's not a competition. Every one loses at a different pace. Keep on doing what you are supposed to and you will succeed.

[YngGram 73]

I fully understand how you're feeling. I got my band 3/09, was doing I thought great, not much work, it was just coming off and I felt so good. I had an issue in July(10) (temp changes does crazy stuff to my band) and the dr. to out a little. I waited until Oct. to go back and I had put on about 10lbs. It started to come off again, and I went back for a fill in June. Now here are my current "issues", I don't get hungry...so I don't eat. This is very bad from what I've been told. I now hover around 175lbs. but the funny thing is I can wear a pair of jeans that I couldn't wear last summer (10) when I was 4lbs. lighter. The only thought is that the weight has shifted on my body. I realized tonight that I eat to much to often when I do eat. I had 6 shrimp and some thin Pasta for lunch, but dinner was 3 slices from a large pizza. To me that says fill, but my DH will lose his mind if I say I want one. The recommedation from the doc is 135lbs. I set my goal at 160lbs., hell I'm in my 50's and I don't need to be a hard body, this was about my BP and cancer. I am happy I can wear a 12 but when I hear of those who have lost 100 + lbs. I feel like I have failed. I live to far out for support groups, and I know that life stress is really kicking me hard. Many tell me how great I look now, but the "You must have lost a TON of weight!" is depressing. I always thought I look ok with what I had, the pictures tell a different story,,,and then I am ashamed. To add to my insult, eventhough I'm not loosing any weight, everything has started to saggggggggggg! We have free membership at the Y and I just can't get myself in there. If I had to look at friends who did this also, I might knock myself out. My biggest evil right now is coffee/creamers, I know it and can't stop. Keep kicking friend, we might get the dang bag off our heads and see this to the end.

[mdr7205 0]

niterun thank u so much for ur story!!. sorry when say 6 and 8, yes i do mean cc. no im not a couch potatoe, i dont have time to be, lol. with 3 kids and all the house work everyday, it leaves lil tv time. on to the whole working out thing, i was till my recent frustrations with it, cuz still no results, and i was even hungrier all the time. i did stairs, treadmill, was working on muscle toning, sometimes twice a day. i understand its not a competition thing, but when ive worked harder at this than they did, and have been at it longer, they look great and i dont have the same results, its very hurtful. i have my appt today, and will see what they say. thanks everybody

[mmccracken 1]

Hey! I had my lapband surgery in 2008 in Nov. I had lost about 50 lbs in a year and a half. I think that's slow! Anyway I then lost about 75 lbs. by the summer of 2010 and had a penniculectomy(more than a tummy tuck) as I had a lot of hanging fat! I weighed 236 when I had lapb. so at the time of the stomach surgery probably weighed 160(can't remember exactly). I had many, many stiches across my lower abdomen and drains on both sides. I had virtually no pain, just discomfort trying to sleep and etc. After about 1 month the swelling was gone and I then lost about 25 more lbs. During the time b/f the stomach surg. I had may 4 or 5 fills. Then about a year ago in this coming up April, my band seemed to tighted. I was having indigestion almost constantly and I would throw up my food, etc. I went to my surgeon and he took almost all my saline. I then gained about 20-25 lbs. Very discouraging!!! Then I began to get a little at a time put back in and I have lost about 10 of those 25 lbs. So I went from being in a 6 to some 8's and mostly now 10's. That is great considering I was wearing a 22 at the beginning! But it was also very depressing for me. I loved the 6!!! MY friends and family thought I looked too thin and sick though and think I look much better and healthier now. I am trying to exercise each day doing something. Also in the last 2 or 3 weeks I think my band has tightened again b/c it's very easy for me to get indigestion if I don't eat just about a palm full of food at one time. I'm trying to live with this though b/c I don't want to have saline taken out b/c I know I'll eat again too much a gain weight. I think from talking to friends that had the surgery after me that it's just going to be a struggle all the time. I'm trying to live with it. I do know I would not change the fact that I had the surgery. I don't ever want to be big again. like right now I have indigestion adn I've only had to eat this morning about 1/4 cup of sugerless Cereal and about that much milk and my Vitamins. Usually when I start out with indiges. I'll have it all day long. It's miserable!!

[Short and Chunky 230]

Wow, you guys make me feel like I have found a true family...I was banded in 7/11. I lost great guns at first and I am down 75 pounds. I went from a size 22W to the 14 I have on today. People say I look great - even skinny but..you knew there was a BUT ! I have about 5cc in my band (don't know exactly) and now I have stopped loosing weight. I am down 1 pound since December 1st...I even started weight watchers again so I would be weighed weekly and have to face someone with my weight. I am so afraid I am back to my old self. Diet, loose a bunch, look good, go back to eating what and when I want ! That is why I got the band to keep that from happening. I see the Dr. on 2/10 and I hope he does a fill. I think if it hurts too much to eat, I will get back in control. I have lose the DRIVE that came with the surgery and I need to find that again. I KNOW WHY I am not loosing - I stopped walking 2-3 miles per day, doing hand weights at night and I have returned to snacking - on slider foods (of course - you know- the ones that taste good !). I know what is wrong and I know how to fix it, I just can't get ME to FIX IT !!! This website is a real help but short of having my jaws wired shut, I feel like I too an a bit of a failure and I just can't admit that to anyone who hasn't been there before. Thanks for listening and keep these messages coming... Melinda in Jacksonville

[mdr7205 0]

thank u so much for your stories. i went today and got a fill, so at 7cc now. feels like starting over, but hope it helps. the weigh in was like a slap in the face. she is planning on measuring me next week. so i started at 234lb size 18, march of 2010, to 170lbs size 11-12 september 2011, to 195lbs size 13-14 today january 2012. UGH!!!! trying very hard to stay positive, and keep fighting the fight!!!