Advice or Suggestion .. please

[Lisa1967 0]

When I first made the decision the only people who knew were my kids, husband, parents, inlaws, and two of my closest friends. Since I work in a hospital laboratory, and had my surgery at the same hospital, we get a surgery schedule the day of. Needless to say word got out throughout my department.

[kewlshort1 4]

I have a similar issue- I work on an OB unit, and I post the surgery schedule for the following day because we often get gynecology surgical patients on our floor. As a result, everyone is able to see the entire hospital's surgery schedule for the following day. I have told a number of coworkers about it already, partially due to that reason. Also, I have two coworkers that have had gastric bypass, and have enjoyed "learning" from their experiences. I also have a couple overweight coworkers that are interested in my experience, and may consider lap-band themselves sometime in the future. It has been a very pleasant experience for me so far. My mom knows as well, as do a couple of my closest friends. I think I will share with more people after surgery, particularly the family members that I haven't shared with, and other friends on Facebook maybe. We'll have to see. So far I haven't had any negative responses, but I'm sure someone will change that LOL

When I first made the decision the only people who knew were my kids, husband, parents, inlaws, and two of my closest friends. Since I work in a hospital laboratory, and had my surgery at the same hospital, we get a surgery schedule the day of. Needless to say word got out throughout my department.

[DebHart71 3]

I am not hiding it and talk to anyone who wants to talk about it. When I put my posts on FB I tell people that if they do not have anything positive to share do not comment on my posts. At one time I had someone attack me (about a different subject) and I told everyone that if they didn't like what I post to skip over it and do not comment on it. If they really don't like what I post they can leave the party. That person left lickety split and I haven't had anymore problems. You have to let your FB friends and family know that you only want encouragement and nothing negative.

You have the right to unfriend anyone who has a negative attitude toward you or your choices. Good Luck!

[Shelley64 26]

My advise is....DON'T TELL ANYONE except your family and super close (non-judgemental) friend (s). Seriously, it's none of any body's business and people who don't have food issues simply can't understand why a heavy person can't lose weight. It's so easy to say...just eat less and exercise more! If it were that easy there wouldn't be any fat people around. Trust me, people will judge you for not losing quick enough, loosing too fast, hitting a plateau, seeing you eat something they don't think is a good choice, making comments about the weird food you do eat....the list goes on! Keep it to yourself!

I only told my family and my best friend (who lives in another town) and I am SO glad. I hit a 2 month plateau and I haven't lost a lot anyway but I'm so glad I don't have people saying..."well she sure wasted alot of money to only lose 30 lbs. or she could have done that without having surgery!" Only I know how much the band has helped me get control over the amount of food I eat. I still struggle with wanting everything under the sun but in reality I can only eat a small amount at one time.

[SkinnyMiniMe 63]

Exactly why I am not telling everyone!!!

I had a skinny friend tell me once "just eat less and exercise more". Then years went by and she was struggling to quit smoking and in conversation I told her "just stop smoking". I think she finally understood !

My advise is....DON'T TELL ANYONE except your family and super close (non-judgemental) friend (s). Seriously, it's none of any body's business and people who don't have food issues simply can't understand why a heavy person can't lose weight. It's so easy to say...just eat less and exercise more! If it were that easy there wouldn't be any fat people around. Trust me, people will judge you for not losing quick enough, loosing too fast, hitting a plateau, seeing you eat something they don't think is a good choice, making comments about the weird food you do eat....the list goes on! Keep it to yourself!

I only told my family and my best friend (who lives in another town) and I am SO glad. I hit a 2 month plateau and I haven't lost a lot anyway but I'm so glad I don't have people saying..."well she sure wasted alot of money to only lose 30 lbs. or she could have done that without having surgery!" Only I know how much the band has helped me get control over the amount of food I eat. I still struggle with wanting everything under the sun but in reality I can only eat a small amount at one time.