My Mom told people about my surgery

[jayeljay613 1]

I know it is a major struggle for a lot of us whether to tell people about our LapBand surgery... It is also often talked about on this site but I have kind of unique situation at this point and want some opinions please.

I decided to only tell my immediate family and close friends initially but now I am getting tons of comments and questions about what I am doing. For some bizarre reason I feel awful not telling people the "truth". I know I am telling them the truth by saying low carb, high Protein, more exercise, etc. but some family members are obviously wondering "how" after all these years and some of my Aunts have been so full of compliments!

To add to this, I asked my Mom yesterday if she had told anyone (she promised she wouldn't) besides my brother who she already "slipped to". Well it seems she told at least one of my Aunts and my Memere. My family CANNOT keep a secret so I know it is just a matter of time that it all gets around. I don't want people feeling bad that I kept this from them but I also don't really want to deal with all the questions...

Question is: Should I be proactive and just start telling everyone so at least I'm the one to tell them or should I just let the gossiping commence?

Thanks everyone. Jenn

[Lalola 2]

I would start telling them. It feels good to share and there will always be some people that have a weird stance on it, but who can argue with results!

[waynef 25]

I would tell everyone, I told everyone about mine. Dont be afraid, you are still doing it on your own.

Why wouldnt you tell?

[TracieR 88]

I would tell! I tell anyone who can stand to listen. It helps keep me accountable and if they have anything negative to say I give them an education real quick!

[Dibley Dawn 84]

This is the exact reason I didn't tell my mother. She can't keep a secret either and it's nobody's busines but my own.

I'm sorry that she's going against your wishes. if it's that important to you to keep it a secret, tell her that you are upset that she shared such a personal thing with others when it wasn't their business and that you would appreciate it if in the future she could not tell anyone else.

[waynef 25]

On the bad side when you tell everyone about your surgery they watch everything you eat and let you know if they think its not enough or to much or not thr right thing.

[jayeljay613 1]

Thanks everyone. I am VERY upset with my mother but I am pretty used to her not being able to keep a secret. I had hoped that for something this important she would keep it quiet. I didn't want to tell people because I don't want people watching what I eat, I don't want them judging me for "taking the easy way" and believe me I KNOW that it is not easy but they don't! Why do I really care what people think? I wish it didn't matter but it does...

[waynef 25]

So true Wanna Be, I think people are more judgemental now than when I ate anything I could. I always thought this was the easy way out, but have since learned it is not at all.

[Jennifer S 0]

I think our mom's might be sisters. I have to preface everything I tell my mom with "I don't want you to put this on facebook" .....