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I don't think I can add to what anyone has said here. So I'm sending prayers, white light, healing vibes & everything else I can think of! Stay strong!! (((HUGS)))!!!!

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Like everyone else has said, you are very brave, even if you don't feel like it, and someday, your kids will see that you stood up for them and for family. You mentioned your DH was like his father; well these sons may see a different example set, and you could be giving them the best gift ever. I am sorry you are going through this, and be sure to take care of yourself (one of the hardest jobs ever given to mothers!) (((hugs))), Cindy

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((((hugs)))) Oh Mary, I'm so sorry. It is just terrible that you MIL can't let go. Something sick about that.

It's never easy, but you are strong, and you have all of us, those that post and all that lurk.

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Hiyas Mary..

I have been in your shoes twice in my life. I survived it and I think that even tho there are always complications of divorce that seem to affect our kids forever more, I believe they were better off with just me rather than being treated like crap by anyone else.. family or not.

Be strong, think with your head not your emotions, consider long term consequences and dont ignore that 'nagging little voice' in your head that's telling you what you should be doing.

I don't support divorce as an answer to problems but then I've been divorced twice. And I swear, I can't say I'd do it any differently if I had it to do over again. But I also know the heartache that lingers long after. Tough spot to be in girl. Pray, lean on friends and family you trust, and keep trying until the bitter end to get thru to that man of yours.

Best of everything to you and your family,

Sincerely,

Susan

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I know that this situation is hard for you, but I am so proud of you for doing what is right for your children. It's a shame that your husband is acting like this, and I'm sorry that it's happening to you. You are such a sweet woman and wonderful mother.

Many Hugs

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I'm so sorry you are going through this. Some men just never grow up and leave their mommies, and some mothers encourage that because of their own insecurities or whatever. Your husband will someday realize he made the wrong choice, but for now you have to do what's best for you and your children. Divorce is never a good answer, but sometimes it's the ONLY answer. Sending hugs and good thoughts your way...you WILL get through this.

Emily

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Wow! Mary ((hugs)) Kudos for standing up & saying that you & your kids deserve better. You truely do b/c I am sure what you wrote was barely the tip of the iceberg! Please be safe & smart & make sure you have a very very good lawyer. I would also say that if there was any small chance of him & his mother & you going to therapy that it may be worth it for the children's sake. However,IMO, I would never let the kids be watched daily by her now or in the future with what you have experienced.

May all Strength & Courage that you need be with you now & for years to come!

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