Lap Band and personal stress

[Renee318 0]

This is a question about life's other stresses (boyfriend now ex-boyfriend, teenage daughter, bilIs) I got a fill about a month ago and for a week or so everything was groovy. New fill wasn't too tight, I was eating smaller portions again. Life was great. Then the boyfriend broke up with me and it really upset me and now nothing wants to stay down. liquids bounce, hot liquids, cold liquids, room temperature liquids. Everything bounces. solid food is completely out of the question but I can usually sneak in a few bites of yogurt a day. Anybody else's band have the trampoline effect from stress? What did you do and how do you deal with it?

[Jonna 4]

I would say the first thing you have to do is forget about everything else, but yourself and your children. You did this for you and them, no one else! I am married, but believe me I have stress too. I find myself now cleaning a lot more when I am stressed, because no matter what I am not allowing anyone to bust my bubble with my new life with the band. Just remember, you're allowing someone else to control your emotions. YOU are in control of what and who you allow to do that!

[aliciab 8]

We were talking about this yesterday on a different post. Apparently yes, stress can constrict the band for quite a few people. I'm not banded yet but I anticipate that I will have this problem. I'm just going to have to try and relax. Getting some exercise might help.

[Renee318 0]

Thanks Jonna and AliciaB. I've been banded for almost 3 years now and am generally a laid back kinda gal, but I've had a very stressful summer and then to have my heart crushed just kinda sent my stress into overdrive I reckon. I keep telling myself that everything will be fine. It's just a boy. (he's36, I'm 37). Hopefully my head will listen soon.

[aliciab 8]

It will. It will. We are all survivors. Whenever I could tell a relationship was about to end or even sometimes when I was afraid to start a new relationship I would always tell myself the same thing. Alicia will always be Alicia, no one can take that away from me and as long as I can count on myself, I'll be just fine.

[Phranp 46]

This is a question about life's other stresses (boyfriend now ex-boyfriend, teenage daughter, bilIs) I got a fill about a month ago and for a week or so everything was groovy. New fill wasn't too tight, I was eating smaller portions again. Life was great. Then the boyfriend broke up with me and it really upset me and now nothing wants to stay down. liquids bounce, hot liquids, cold liquids, room temperature liquids. Everything bounces. solid food is completely out of the question but I can usually sneak in a few bites of yogurt a day. Anybody else's band have the trampoline effect from stress? What did you do and how do you deal with it?

So glad you posted this, I was about to post a similar one. It is 3 a.m. and I have been up for an hour -- didn't go to sleep until 11 p.m. and I have to be up at 5 a.m. to go to the park for my 3 mile power walk. It will not be pretty when the alarm goes off at 5. For most of June and all of July I have been working 14-16 hour work days and 5-6 hours a day on Sat and Sun. I needed the money because my precious child (yes, I am being sarcastic) decided that instead of going to a college an hour's drive away, he informed he signed a letter of intent for a full ride football scholarship to a school 2 1/2 hours away -- by plane. So instead of packing everything into the car and/or truck and driving, I had to find a few thousand extra dollars to get him to school early and set up his apartment a month early! He doesn't get his financial aid until September. Hence, the crazy overtime. The OT started an avalanche that has yet to stop. He is finally away at school (as of 8-1-11), but I still have to ship his "toys" and some (more) clothing -- stress. I have been experiencing severe speech and cognitive problems due to exhaustion and problems using my CPAP. I am going back to the neurologist on Thursday for the last of 3 tests. The neurologist is looking for evidence of mini stroke or seizure. I have cut back on the OT and I am feeling better and I am trying to use my CPAP more (the side effects are so bad that I take it off in my sleep, ughhh). I didn't think I was stressed about the test tomorrow. I am optimistic about the test results on Thursday ... or so I thought. I started having trouble eating about a week ago, then on Monday night I couldn't eat my dinner. It was more than just feeling as though my band had slammed shut ... I also could not stand the taste of the food ... which is crazy since I have eaten that meal many times before. Tuesday I had my usual Protein drink for Breakfast -- took longer to get it down, weird. Ate lunch late because I could feel the anxiety rising. I finally heated up a roasted chicken breast but couldn't get it down. dinner was better, I had 2 chicken wings ... that was the best I could do. I am working hard to stay hydrated, but my band is still "stress tight". Things are ramping up at work and will be crazy on and off until October, possibly November. My brother's poor health has recently gotten worse. I haven't visited my mom at the convalescent home in 2 months (feeling incredibly guilty). Oh and my recently "happy" son called me today to say he has a cold and is miserable at his new school. And I can't use food to soothe my anxiety because my band is "stress tight". OMG!!!

Unfortunately, getting over stress isn't as simple as telling myself that everything is going to be fine. I actually thought I was okay, but my band says differently. But, I do have faith that "this too shall pass".

Hang in there Renee, we will both get better soon.

It is almost 4 a.m., I am going to try to sleep for an hour before the alarm.

~Fran