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Hi, my name is ash and ive been back and forth with getting wls for six years. The first go around it was all my parents doing they wanted for me to get the gastric bypass surgery. But, at that time i didn't want it and wasn't prepared for it. I considered having gastric bypass surgery again in 2008 with me fully on board. I was ready this time and done extensive research. All of my family knew and they were all on board. I did all the pre-op testing and even had a surgery date. I got cold feet and backed out of the surgery a week before. Now, its 2011 and I'm looking into the lap band this time around. I'm doing this a little differently I'm not telling all of my family members just my mom and dad. My dad is totally on board always has been. My mom on the other hand is against me having the surgery. She feels like i should just try weight watchers again FOR THE THRID TIME. She feels that weight watchers is the way to go and that i would be more successful without all the restriction that comes from the lap band. Now, she is making me very conflicted if lap band is the surgery for me. But, at the same time i have to keep reminding myself that it's my journey not hers.

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Hi, my name is ash and ive been back and forth with getting wls for six years. The first go around it was all my parents doing they wanted for me to get the gastric bypass surgery. But, at that time i didn't want it and wasn't prepared for it. I considered having gastric bypass surgery again in 2008 with me fully on board. I was ready this time and done extensive research. All of my family knew and they were all on board. I did all the pre-op testing and even had a surgery date. I got cold feet and backed out of the surgery a week before. Now, its 2011 and I'm looking into the lap band this time around. I'm doing this a little differently I'm not telling all of my family members just my mom and dad. My dad is totally on board always has been. My mom on the other hand is against me having the surgery. She feels like i should just try weight watchers again FOR THE THRID TIME. She feels that weight watchers is the way to go and that i would be more successful without all the restriction that comes from the lap band. Now, she is making me very conflicted if lap band is the surgery for me. But, at the same time i have to keep reminding myself that it's my journey not hers.

You sound quite young since you are depending on what mom and dad are saying about the surgery. I on the other hand am old enough to know better, I am 58. Before we left New York I was okayed for gastric bypass and did not want that but the band and after going through all the hoops and testing was okayed but backed out at the last minute just before we moved to AZ. I thought at that time that it would be easy to get approval out here when I started working and could get the band. Well, it took another 2 1/2 years before I could get the approval for the band and my Dr. specifically said that gastric was not the answer for me but the band would be better. The Dr. was so right and I am thrilled to be in the position of not being on a diet and at almost 3 years of being at goal, I feel like a million dollars. Go with your heart and the Dr's advice on what is best for you and do it. I wish I had done this when I was young instead of doing the yo yo dieting thing for my whole life. Good luck in your decision and just keep a positive attitude in whatever choice you make.

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tell ur mom u can do weight watchers when u are banded.. ;)

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How about just tell your Mom to do weight watchers herself. Sorry, I understand that we have people in our lives that influence us but this has to be your decision, not hers.

If this is what you truly want, then go for it :).

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Hey. I looked at your profile and saw that I was only a few months older than you. I can understand how parents can have a big role as a support system, but it is your life. If your mom was supportive of you getting gastric bypass, then she should be OK with you getting the band. Maybe it's because you've backed out of WLS before, and she wants to make sure you're serious about it.

My parents aren't thrilled about the surgery, but they understand my weight struggle. My dad has brain cancer, so understandably my WLS surgery and journey aren't much of a priority and is on the back burner in my family. I will be doing this mostly on my own. It might be hard, but it's doable.

Just try to explain to your mom how you've tried Weight Watchers 2 times before, and it didn't work. The band has you lose weight the "real way", but you have assistance and something to fall back on so you don't fail along the way. It doesn't do the weight loss for you- you do it on your own.

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Hi, my name is ash and ive been back and forth with getting wls for six years. The first go around it was all my parents doing they wanted for me to get the gastric bypass surgery. But, at that time i didn't want it and wasn't prepared for it. I considered having gastric bypass surgery again in 2008 with me fully on board. I was ready this time and done extensive research. All of my family knew and they were all on board. I did all the pre-op testing and even had a surgery date. I got cold feet and backed out of the surgery a week before. Now, its 2011 and I'm looking into the lap band this time around. I'm doing this a little differently I'm not telling all of my family members just my mom and dad. My dad is totally on board always has been. My mom on the other hand is against me having the surgery. She feels like i should just try weight watchers again FOR THE THRID TIME. She feels that weight watchers is the way to go and that i would be more successful without all the restriction that comes from the lap band. Now, she is making me very conflicted if lap band is the surgery for me. But, at the same time i have to keep reminding myself that it's my journey not hers.

I was banded 6/27/11 and have lost 35 lbs (including pre-op Adkins diet). My BP is down to 120/80 and I feel great! I went into surgery around 8 am and was home by 3pm. I am working out and feel GREAT... Go For It!!!:D

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