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I think you are just having a case of last minute nerves. Your surgery is a week away and you're getting scared. It's understandable. You are very young and probably never been through anything so life changing before. I think most of us can relate to the pain of being the fat kid...I know I can. You want to feel better about yourself and probably want to "show them". While losing weight isn't going to change who you are on the inside it will change how you feel about yourself. You will eventually become more confident and happier with your reflection. You don't have health issues now, but you are right. If you stay on your current path you will have them eventually. You're a beautiful girl with your whole life ahead of you and you deserve all the happiness you can get. If losing the weight will contribute to that happiness then you should do it. Don't worry about the surgery or the pain afterward. It's really not that bad. With youth and good health on your side it will probably be easier for you than it was for some of us who are older and less healthy. You should discuss your concerns with your mom or whoever is your biggest supporter. Good luck, I'm sure you'll make the right decision for you.

Cindy

Hello Cindy ,

I think that was very kind of you to tell this young girl.

People do not come to this room to get told off but to get help and understanding. I think you did that very well for her.

Take care

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18Dreamer.... My husband has a saying that he uses "Don't let your old self hate your young self." If you really don't think the band is for you, maybe its not but neither is being 300lbs. How do I know that? Because NO ONE is healthy at that weight. The things you do when you are in your teens and twenties will start to catch up with you in your 30's. We have ALL had our health issues here that can be directly related to weight. Some of those issues are serious and deadly. Trust me, you do not want to be thinking about life and death in the prime of your life.

You have the choice to add years to your life. Whether its with the band or not... that is your decision to make but don't let your fear of change keep you in that 300lb body. You deserve SO much better. You are worth so much more than that.

VERY WELL SAID!!

This post helped me, THANK You!

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