Lap Band and Divorce

[aroundthetown 8]

I think having good self esteem is important to having a good relationship. I know that I have had serious problems with depression and low self esteem during my 10 year relationship with my husband. I know that who I am becoming as I loose the weight is a happier and healthier person. Sometimes the people we marry or partner with become comfortable with us as overweight/depressed/unhappy people. Sometimes the changes we make in ourselves change the dynamics in our relationships, like we demand more respect/attention/sex etc. Sometimes our partners don't want to make the changes that will allow a relationship to flourish in a healthy way, sometimes they do. I don't judge you for thinking about making changes in your relationship when you are doing so much work to change your life in other ways. YOU need to be a happy and healthy person. YOU will be a better mom if you are happy and healthy. If you can be happy in your marriage, then stay. If you can't be happy then do what you need to do to be happy. Because as the daughter of a single mother, I know that I respect and love my mother for making the choice to leave a bad marriage in order to give herself AND me a better life.

Also, to the guy who posted that you should kill yourself, and accused you of having an abortion, I'm embarrassed for him. He's just making all the sane, nice, and loving Christians out there look bad.