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Hey all!

I wanted to post this thread so we can all share stories on how everyone feels about their sex life before or/and after their operation.

If youve had it done how has it changed how you appraoch the opposite sex?

If you havent had it done yet what are your hopes or ideas about this change in regards to sexual relationships? (just some general questions but PLEASE expand), would be cool to hear all your stories!

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My sex life has always been good so I think it will get better the more weight I lose!!!!

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Sex life is pretty much just as disappointing as it was before!

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Pre-band, it was not so good, maybe once a month if that. I figured a lot of it had to do with my weight and we have been married for 13 years so I chalked it up to that. Now saying that....post band, it is awesome!!! About a week after surgery we started having relations about 4 times a week and now 7 months post op, we have it 7-10 times a week. It's spontaneous and exciting :) Good luck to you on your journey!

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muelle-wow i hope i get that much post op LOL im glad its uped the positives in the bedroom for youlaugh.gif

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I wish I could say mine was better, but I'm one of those unlucky ones who suffers from low libido due to hormonal changes from weight loss. My fiance doesn't complain since the frequency hasn't changed but I find I'm not initiating as much as I used to and I have a really hard time "getting there". I always had that problem before but now it seems worse. I hope this will get better :-(

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I'm a bit of a horn dog so mines always been pretty good the more weight I loose the crazier things will probably get.... ;)

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I wish I could say mine was better, but I'm one of those unlucky ones who suffers from low libido due to hormonal changes from weight loss. My fiance doesn't complain since the frequency hasn't changed but I find I'm not initiating as much as I used to and I have a really hard time "getting there". I always had that problem before but now it seems worse. I hope this will get better :-(

My story exactly. I have never had an especially high libido - I've got the mental desire, but not a physical urge and "getting there" doesnt happen without my own input or a few toys. Since my surgery for bowel cancer and all that chemo, I"m now also menopausal at 43 and have all the dryness associated with that, I have an ileostomy (only for two more weeks though) and frankly, much as I love DH and do make the effort 3 or so times a week, I really couldnt care if I never had sex again. I just dont seem to have any physical need for it at all. On a brighter note, pelvic radiation has shrunk all my bits, and it does actually feel a fair bit better.

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Great

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Great!!!! i hated sex 40lbs ago.... But Now....... !!!!!!! It's oh so Good.Actually I think He's In Love All Over Again

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Before I met my wife at my lowest banded weight, I was incredibly happy with my sex life. It was NOT hard to meet a girl and have...relations. lol. Luckily for me, though, I met that lovely lady and, as expected, the frequency has decreased. haha.

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Mine sucked. When I gained all my weight we just kinda stopped having sex...but I have lost almost 30 pounds and its getting better all the time. I am looking forward to 40, 50, 60 pounds! I am sure it will continue to get better!!

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Omg I hope mine gets better I mean I love to have sex but its not that exciting maybe w a little weight removed I can respark our chemistry

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