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the other day my dad called me skinny minnie! (me!!!! wow) it was nice to hear that from him and i've only lost 17 pounds so far. i wish my mom would take a hint from him and start to be supportive. it hurts to not have my mother NOT support me on this. i mean as a little girl you always want your mommies approval, but i guess i should put my big girl panties on and suck it up. i've decided not to even discuss my weight loss with her. i mean people at work who see me everyday have noticied and she sees me for the first time in 6 months(even though i was just banded a month ago) and says NOTHING!! when i tell her i've lost 17 pounds her response was well your dad has lost 20 pounds and you can really see his, but yours is gonna take a while!!!! WTH!! i just got off the phone with her. Anyone else dealing with an unsupportive loved one. UGH!

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I have the same issue. I've finally realized that it's not worth it for me to constantly feel let down by the negative attitude, although it's hard considering it's your mom. I try to focus on all of my friends and other family that have been incredibly supportive. Good luck, and I hope it gets better for you :)

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My mom is tough as well, I inherited my dads build and she's skinny and I finally realized that she is a fat person hater, must suck to have her husband and both of her children be over weight. Example...I was unfilled because I was pregnant and was eating my first hot dog with a bun in 3 years and I said it was so good I could eat a second one and she said now "K" don't use this pregnancy as a chance to go all piggy....Yep thats my mom!

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i'm sorry you have to deal with that, but glad to know i'm not the only one. it's soooo hard not to discuss this part of my life with my mom cuz we usually talk about everything. i find myself catching myself so i dont discuss it. to put icing on the cake she told me sister today that it looks like she's losing weight! MY SISTER IS BIGGER THAN ME AND HASNT DROPPED AN OUNCE LET ALONE A POUND! WTH! I just stood there with my mouth gapping open. It just hurts so much that I feel like she's going out of her way to not recognize my success.:angry:

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I haven'ttold my mom-I am waiting to lose some significant weight first. She's a worry wart so I rather tell her later-but I think she will be happy for me.

I think it's probably harder to get support from someone who never had to deal with weight issues in a big way...even if it's your own mother.

We are women now and don't need our parents approval. We get to call all the shots and take control of our own lives!

The best way to handle this is to get skinny in spite of it!!

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