Unexpected criticism from friends

[willowcat 93]

Be who you are and say what you feel...because that mind don't matter and those that matter don't mind--Dr. Suess

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Because those that mind don't matter...(darn this phone!)

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[Skyvic 226]

None of us should have to defend ourselves in the decisions we make with our bands. I know people sometimes have a hard time grasping onto the idea that some people (like me) need this tool to help me with quantity eating. If friends and family have negative words, it is not worth ther presence as you take this step to better health:)

[dedele34 0]

I lost a friend of 17 years about 4 months after having surgery. I bring it down to jealousy, unfortunately. The friend was so ugly about it. I miss our friendship but nut the ugliness

[dedele34 0]

I lost a friend of 17 years about 4 months after having surgery. I bring it down to jealousy, unfortunately. The friend was so ugly about it. I miss our friendship but nut the ugliness

[daisychains7 427]

My childhood best friend told me not to get the surgery, and that it was the easy way out. However, a couple of weeks after surgery she texted to check up on me. I was surprised she came around. So, don't give up hope.

However, always remember NO ONE knows what it is like to live in your body. They are in no position to judge you. This is for the better of your health. Keep your chin up.

[neener1970 39]

If diets worked for us then none of us would have gotten big enough to need the surgery. You do what's right for u. I am almost 8 months out 100 pounds down and if I had to have it out tomorrow I wouldn't have one shred of regret! Just follow the rules and enjoy the change it is amazing

[pink dahlia 2,513]

I saw this Nike quote somewhere........." While it may suck that i cant eat some of my favorite foods all of the time, it sucks even more to live in a body that i hate ." Ohhhhhh, how true! your friend may be stuck in a body she hates and may be jealous of the fact that you may be competion, etc..... you have to do whats right for your health and body, not theirs. in 6 months ive gone from 225 to 188, a size 18 frumpy, am happier and heathier, look and feel 100 better, and its been oh so worth it ( and the size 14 skinny jeans yesterday didnt hurt either ! )so you just do whats best for you and maybe she'll come around when she sees your progress ! If not, its her problem , not yours. good luck !

[lorena st 33]

I am glad that only my husband and this forum know about my band. My husband likes the weight loss, my new figure and is never critical of my decision or me. This forum, supports me even more...thanks all of you. Even better, I like the new me! My kids and family just think I am losing weight by dieting and I prefer it that way. This journey is tough enough, without the criticism and jeolousy that weight loss/changes can bring out in some people. I'm not sure what you can do about non-supportive people, especially after the deed is done. I would just refuse to discuss that topic and if they did not respect that, then I guess I wouldn't be talking to them at all. Sorry, no better advice.