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I'm morbidly obese and have 120 lbs. to lose. Though many of the women I know are extremely yummy, I don't have access to their magic bits because I get relegated to 'friend' status. Have any of you guys found that you get intimate access to your hot female friends once you lose your excess weight or do they ever become able to see you that way?

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I would say to plan on staying in friend status, you'll be more of a catch if you keep the same attitude and personality as you loose the weight.

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Do not try to get with your friends , when you are more comfortable ask , them to hook you up with one of there friends , that why you have a friend , who will run there mouth about you

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Is there a dating or connection area thru lapband talk??

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When I was at 330 my friend always shot me down cause I was like a brother to her and now I got some on my birthday after losing 100lbs so yea they look at you different lmao

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Everybody treats you differently...... EVERYBODY....

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that is a fear of mine...to an extent. I fear that I will lose weight and my wife will start to get jealous and wonder if other females are hitting on me a lot and then she'll get more self-conscious about herself...etc

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As a follow up to my own question...I'm now about two thirds of the way to my goal weight and females treat me differently for sure. I'm less ckncerned with going after female friends as I now see options everywhere. Stoked on this band.

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Ok i know this is a guy thread but just a personal thought..

Why would you want to go for them? You werent good enough for them when you were bigger so why should they get to get with you just cause your smaller? Your still the same person just a smaller version. No offense but sounds like a bunch of shallow bi#c#es!

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some would say "cuz i got neeeeeeeeds"

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Understandable but there has to be girls out side of them that could feel those needs.

Honestly i dont even talk to guys who where rude when i was fat. Not worth my time. Yes i look diffrent but im the same girl n woulda been the same badass gf then. But no people are shallow so i to have set my standards above dirtbag.

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Hit it and quit it.

Then they can be "friends"

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Is there a dating or connection area thru lapband talk??

That would be nice. Especially for all single ladies who are about to be fit and even MORE lovely:)

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