Will power

[beckyrlnd 2]

So far the only thing i can't control is my own will power. i do great during the week. i have controlled meals. calories, fat and carbs are monitored. but when i am home on the weekends. i eat like no holds bar. i just can't seem to control myself at times. I am not gaining but i am not losing the maximum which i should. i have a terrible sweet tooth and i like to have treats too. i think this has been my only problem and it is not going to solve itself. i know this is my problem from the very beginning. i am a grazer and could snack all day if allowed. I dont think i could be beaten up any more than i beat myself up. i just think the bad part is I KNOW WHAT I AM DOING WRONG AND CAN NOT STOP IT.

Frustrated with myself in so many ways. I mean I am not blowing it by eating a whole cheesecake but it would not be good for it to b in my house right now. I am going to have to type me a nono list and stick to it.

i have good satietion. i dont get hungry between meals. i eat small. but when there is something extra in the house it is not good. I have to pray for stronger will power. I know there are others out there that struggle with the same issues. I have just got to stick to my guns and not keep following the same cycle over and over again.

[ElfiePoo 109]

It sounds like part of the problem is that on the weekends you have more time on your hand to think about food. Find a new hobby...something that keeps your hands busy. I find that I need to keep my hands busy even when I'm watching tv or they (my hands) want to go into the kitchen and find food to shove into my face.

Also, does an alcoholic feel they must keep the bottle in their house to prove they've overcome their addiction and that they have willpower? Nope. They recognize that it's a temptation best avoided. If at all possible, clean out the temptations in your own house. That way, in order to give in, you actually have to go to the store and that requires more effort and time to talk yourself out of it...and time for the willpower to kick in.

Be patient with yourself. It takes time to change the relationship you have with food...but you can do it.

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[Juliat 6]

So far the only thing i can't control is my own will power. i do great during the week. i have controlled meals. calories, fat and carbs are monitored. but when i am home on the weekends. i eat like no holds bar. i just can't seem to control myself at times. I am not gaining but i am not losing the maximum which i should. i have a terrible sweet tooth and i like to have treats too. i think this has been my only problem and it is not going to solve itself. i know this is my problem from the very beginning. i am a grazer and could snack all day if allowed. I dont think i could be beaten up any more than i beat myself up. i just think the bad part is I KNOW WHAT I AM DOING WRONG AND CAN NOT STOP IT.

Frustrated with myself in so many ways. I mean I am not blowing it by eating a whole cheesecake but it would not be good for it to b in my house right now. I am going to have to type me a nono list and stick to it.

i have good satietion. i dont get hungry between meals. i eat small. but when there is something extra in the house it is not good. I have to pray for stronger will power. I know there are others out there that struggle with the same issues. I have just got to stick to my guns and not keep following the same cycle over and over again.

I have the same problem. That's why I needed help with my weight. I still fight everyday not to snack because I spent a lot of time and money and this thing and I know it can help me be successful. The positive I can think of when I do have a bad weekend is that when I snacked, I couldn't do it at the level I was doing before. I used to be able to eat a whole container of cream cheese with crackers. Now, I only eat 2-3 crackers and it fills me up and I don't want anymore. That's a huge difference.

Please don't beat yourself up. The whole process is a struggle and this happens to be yours and mine. We can definitely get through it. Be strong and mindful of what you are doing. Just ask yourself, 'do I really need this?' and answer yourself. Then divert your attention to something else, like walking or playing a game. I know it sounds weird, but when I actually ask myself that question I begin to realize I'm not eating because I'm hungry. I'm eating because I have an addiction and it's the compulsion wanting me to do it.

Take care!

Julia

[beckyrlnd 2]

Thank you much! you are so right. it is like an addict. i was talking to someone the other day. i have been smoke free for over 10 years but could smoke one the size of manhattan if available.

But my family does not want to sacrifice as i have chosen too. i have to control myself more at home. Prayers. Prayers . Prayers!

thank you so much for the pep talk! i know it gets better. then mind game never ends i guess.

Thanks again!

[beckyrlnd 2]

I have the same problem. That's why I needed help with my weight. I still fight everyday not to snack because I spent a lot of time and money and this thing and I know it can help me be successful. The positive I can think of when I do have a bad weekend is that when I snacked, I couldn't do it at the level I was doing before. I used to be able to eat a whole container of cream cheese with crackers. Now, I only eat 2-3 crackers and it fills me up and I don't want anymore. That's a huge difference.

Please don't beat yourself up. The whole process is a struggle and this happens to be yours and mine. We can definitely get through it. Be strong and mindful of what you are doing. Just ask yourself, 'do I really need this?' and answer yourself. Then divert your attention to something else, like walking or playing a game. I know it sounds weird, but when I actually ask myself that question I begin to realize I'm not eating because I'm hungry. I'm eating because I have an addiction and it's the compulsion wanting me to do it.

Take care!

Julia

so true. i do ask myself a lot but sometimes i give in. Must keep the faith and go forward. Thank you for the encouragement.

[ElfiePoo 109]

But my family does not want to sacrifice as i have chosen too. i have to control myself more at home. Prayers. Prayers . Prayers!

I have to admit that I'm puzzled by the mindset of some of the families who don't want to 'sacrifice' but then the majority of people see obesity as a character defect. We're lazy and have no willpower (their view) and all we need to do is practice a little self-control. If we were alcoholics, they'd understand and accept that having alcohol in the house is counterproductive to the person's healing. Yet they don't make that same connection to our addiction to certain foods...and it is to 'certain' foods, not all. If you notice what people 'cheat' on, it becomes clear that we aren't addicted to all food...just those wonderfully carby foods...and, like the bottle of alcohol, need to be put out of our reach.

I guess I feel blessed by my husband because the first thing he asked was, "How can I help?" and when I said I needed to remove all temptation from the house, he helped me clean out the pantry. Oh sure, he still eats the things I can't have, but he does it at work or his mom's.

[LosingItAll 49]

Many of the youtube girls I follow call this phenomena "weekend fatgirl" - many of us (including myself) struggle with over-eating on the weekends. Dont beat yourself up, just keep working at it. I have the "lap band 10 commandments" and photos/reminders on the fridge/kitchen so when i go to eat something I shouldnt - i remember how good it feels to fit into a smaller size, to go walking and bike riding with my kids - and how good I feel about myself when I feel lighter. Check out youtube for ispiration, it helps me (try bandedwendy or newtoy4kt - both have lost over 100 pounds and have many inspirational videos).

[Swan56 6]

I have to admit that I'm puzzled by the mindset of some of the families who don't want to 'sacrifice' but then the majority of people see obesity as a character defect. We're lazy and have no willpower (their view) and all we need to do is practice a little self-control. If we were alcoholics, they'd understand and accept that having alcohol in the house is counterproductive to the person's healing. Yet they don't make that same connection to our addiction to certain foods...and it is to 'certain' foods, not all. If you notice what people 'cheat' on, it becomes clear that we aren't addicted to all food...just those wonderfully carby foods...and, like the bottle of alcohol, need to be put out of our reach.

I guess I feel blessed by my husband because the first thing he asked was, "How can I help?" and when I said I needed to remove all temptation from the house, he helped me clean out the pantry. Oh sure, he still eats the things I can't have, but he does it at work or his mom's.

Luckily my husband is the same way! He has switched to fat free or sugar free pudding and sugar free popsicles. We don't have ice cream (my weakness) in the house or chocolate. He eats the same things I eat and it helps me to better myself. My kids still eat chips, Cookies, etc. but those aren't really huge temptations for me. If I feel the need to eat some, I may grab a couple and then that craving is gone.

It's a struggle - it takes hard work daily and we're all doing through it. Good luck!

[beckyrlnd 2]

Many of the youtube girls I follow call this phenomena "weekend fatgirl" - many of us (including myself) struggle with over-eating on the weekends. Dont beat yourself up, just keep working at it. I have the "lap band 10 commandments" and photos/reminders on the fridge/kitchen so when i go to eat something I shouldnt - i remember how good it feels to fit into a smaller size, to go walking and bike riding with my kids - and how good I feel about myself when I feel lighter. Check out youtube for ispiration, it helps me (try bandedwendy or newtoy4kt - both have lost over 100 pounds and have many inspirational videos).

Lap band ten commandments. I would like a copy of. if you can copy and paste them i would greatly appreciate it.

Thank you!

[beckyrlnd 2]

I have to admit that I'm puzzled by the mindset of some of the families who don't want to 'sacrifice' but then the majority of people see obesity as a character defect. We're lazy and have no willpower (their view) and all we need to do is practice a little self-control. If we were alcoholics, they'd understand and accept that having alcohol in the house is counterproductive to the person's healing. Yet they don't make that same connection to our addiction to certain foods...and it is to 'certain' foods, not all. If you notice what people 'cheat' on, it becomes clear that we aren't addicted to all food...just those wonderfully carby foods...and, like the bottle of alcohol, need to be put out of our reach.

I guess I feel blessed by my husband because the first thing he asked was, "How can I help?" and when I said I needed to remove all temptation from the house, he helped me clean out the pantry. Oh sure, he still eats the things I can't have, but he does it at work or his mom's.

melody you are so correct. i am not addicted to food just a carby. As long as it is not in the house i am good. out of site out of mind. but if my husband brings it in or the kids bring something in i have a hard time. That is when i struggle with my willpower.

I greatly appreciate the encouragement and advice and tips for helping!

I pray all have a great day!

[thsisme 14]

Sometimes there just are no easy answers. As Elfiepoo stated perhaps a hobby that you can keep busy with. Try chewing on gum or perhaps drinking flavored water. We all have our demons with our relationship with food and the world around us. I go walking when the urge comes upon me to start grazing. You are not alone in this battle