Calming my spouse's fears

[gMommy 4]

My husband is having a lot of fear over me getting this surgery. He is worried that I am going to get skinny and leave him. We both know of couples where this happened. I wasn't very close to any of these couples so I don't know what their marriage was like. But, I do know what my marriage is like. I'm trying to calm his fears. But, it is frustrating. I would prefer to have his support at calming my fears instead of the other way around. Has anyone else had to deal with this?

[kayekaye 2]

I would keep reassuring him on a daily basis and involve him with your journey , the more informed the more less he will feel left out. Keep him feeling secure is the key!

My husband is having a lot of fear over me getting this surgery. He is worried that I am going to get skinny and leave him. We both know of couples where this happened. I wasn't very close to any of these couples so I don't know what their marriage was like. But, I do know what my marriage is like. I'm trying to calm his fears. But, it is frustrating. I would prefer to have his support at calming my fears instead of the other way around. Has anyone else had to deal with this?

[54Shirley 105]

take him to a support meeting where this can be discussed.

Mine had the same hang up.

[deidre 1]

My husband said the same thing! I guess this must be fairly common. If you figure out the magic words, let me know!

[gMommy 4]

So, the ironic thing is that my husband lost 70 pounds in the last year. He's not planning on leaving me. And he is still the same person. I guess I should remind him of that the next time he brings it up. If our relationship was not affected by his weight loss, why would mine?