Got my Surgery date!!!! Mixed Emotions!

[jennifer1 180]

I got my surgery date of May20th (pre-op testing May 6th). I AM SO EXCITED THIS IS FINALLY HAPPENING, IT ALMOST SEEM SURREAL! I have waited 5 years for this. I'm also saddend cuz my familly doesnt support me. I can tell my sister is jealous. She wants to get the surgery too, but her husband wont allow her! WTH! how can you tell someone that wants to do something to improve their health, no! Hmph! maybe that's why I'm single, cuz i would have it anyway! LOL! anyway, cant wait to join the bandsters!!!!! How are other single people dealing with not having family support them? I have a few supportive friends, but I'm only sharing this with a few. Ok gotta go figure out how to get me a ticker now!!!!!

[babypittgirl 0]

at first my mother was VERY skeptical and it made me upset. i think she thought i wanted an easy way out. now that she understands it more she is much more excited for me! when i met with the therapist she warned me about people being jealous and said that its something that you are going to have to deal with. i would say REMEMBER you are doing this for you , not ur friends or family, YOU!!! hopefully they will come around! Be happy! If you have friends that support u rely on them. or other people who have beebn banded. Its a important choice but i think u are making the right one :-)

[CarrieRN2006 1]

Jennifer-congrats on your banding date!!! This is only the beginning. When you have ups and downs you will need support. I made the mistake of giving up for awhile and wasn't losing and stopped coming on here for support. If you do not have the 100% support you need outside of this, at least stay up with this forum for support. I have never met so many nice people that are willing to encourage you through all of the ups and downs of this journey! I am sorry that your family isn't 100% but they will hopefully come around. When i first told my mother she was really saddened and upset but I think she was just upset that I was going to be risking myself to a surgery, not necessarily that i was having the wls. The morning of my surgery-my husband, mother, and mother in law were all in tow and SUPER supportive. but that morning, my husband was taking my day of surgery pictures and said-i changed my mind, i don't want you to do it. I am not taking you-what do you say now? (he was joking with me) and i said well, screw you-this isn't about YOU, its about me and I will have my mom, your mom, or I will drive myself! hahaha. It really is about YOU not them. You have a life to live and no one deserves to be unhappy or unhealthy if they can and want to choose otherwise! My breaking point was my honeymoon when i felt out of place and couldn't take in the beautiful vacation I deserved because i felt overweight, ugly and like i was holding back because of my weight.

good luck with your journey-keep me updated and if you need a friend-I am here for you!!

[carlie9475 0]

Hi! I also am getting banded on May 4th I'm pretty nervous but excited. I'm worried I will be the one that doesn't succeed....I'm just going to do Everything they say and hope for success

[jennifer1 180]

Thanks so much Carrie. I am still excited about getting banded. I told one of my friends that I am obsessed with this forum. Everyday I learn something new. Thanks for your support. I'm sure once I actually get banded I will have more questions. It's still so surreal that I'm actually getting it done. I cant wait to start thge next phase of my journey. This support group is awesome. I'm also thinking about going to the support groups offered by the facility i'm getting my surgery. All in all I'm full steam ahead!!

Jennifer

Jennifer-congrats on your banding date!!! This is only the beginning. When you have ups and downs you will need support. I made the mistake of giving up for awhile and wasn't losing and stopped coming on here for support. If you do not have the 100% support you need outside of this, at least stay up with this forum for support. I have never met so many nice people that are willing to encourage you through all of the ups and downs of this journey! I am sorry that your family isn't 100% but they will hopefully come around. When i first told my mother she was really saddened and upset but I think she was just upset that I was going to be risking myself to a surgery, not necessarily that i was having the wls. The morning of my surgery-my husband, mother, and mother in law were all in tow and SUPER supportive. but that morning, my husband was taking my day of surgery pictures and said-i changed my mind, i don't want you to do it. I am not taking you-what do you say now? (he was joking with me) and i said well, screw you-this isn't about YOU, its about me and I will have my mom, your mom, or I will drive myself! hahaha. It really is about YOU not them. You have a life to live and no one deserves to be unhappy or unhealthy if they can and want to choose otherwise! My breaking point was my honeymoon when i felt out of place and couldn't take in the beautiful vacation I deserved because i felt overweight, ugly and like i was holding back because of my weight.

good luck with your journey-keep me updated and if you need a friend-I am here for you!!

[jennifer1 180]

Congrats on getting banded. I have the same concern and I think that's one of the reasons I dont want to tell a lot of people. What if this doesnt work, then I'm doomed to be fat all my life! Gasrtic bypass is not an option!

Hi! I also am getting banded on May 4th I'm pretty nervous but excited. I'm worried I will be the one that doesn't succeed....I'm just going to do Everything they say and hope for success

[jennifer1 180]

Thanks for the encouraging words. As the days tick by I'm getting more and more excited and not second guessing if i should do it!

Jennifer

at first my mother was VERY skeptical and it made me upset. i think she thought i wanted an easy way out. now that she understands it more she is much more excited for me! when i met with the therapist she warned me about people being jealous and said that its something that you are going to have to deal with. i would say REMEMBER you are doing this for you , not ur friends or family, YOU!!! hopefully they will come around! Be happy! If you have friends that support u rely on them. or other people who have beebn banded. Its a important choice but i think u are making the right one :-)

[Noturningback15 45]

I got my surgery date of May20th (pre-op testing May 6th). I AM SO EXCITED THIS IS FINALLY HAPPENING, IT ALMOST SEEM SURREAL! I have waited 5 years for this. I'm also saddend cuz my familly doesnt support me. I can tell my sister is jealous. She wants to get the surgery too, but her husband wont allow her! WTH! how can you tell someone that wants to do something to improve their health, no! Hmph! maybe that's why I'm single, cuz i would have it anyway! LOL! anyway, cant wait to join the bandsters!!!!! How are other single people dealing with not having family support them? I have a few supportive friends, but I'm only sharing this with a few. Ok gotta go figure out how to get me a ticker now!!!!!

Hey, if you click on someone's ticker it should take you to the website where you can set yours up and then got to your edit profile and change signatures to copy and paste your code there.