Where to begin again-lack of focus

[FedupwithSelf 0]

I had my band surgery in Sept 2003. So far based on what my doctor told me it has helped me to not gain major weight. But I have only lost 45lbs at my largest weight loss. I currently weight 302 and recently went back to working a desk-job where I have started to gain weight back. I am bipolar and have mood swings that I know effect my weight loss plan. I am on meds but they can not be the fix all. I really don't have a support mechanism. My wife..or ex-wife left me a few years ago when she had the bypass. Her personality/weight changed and she said she was fed up with me and left. I'm single now obviously but just lack the motivation and do not know how to start this up again and regain focus on what I need to do. My surgeon said I should maybe look into the Gastric Sleeve..but that just plain scares me. I know most of what I am saying here is just me venting. I'm wondering if someone else has gone thorugh or is going through this? Thanks for listening.

Kevin

[CarrieRN2006 1]

Kevin, do not lose hope. Think about the fact that you were 45lbs heavier at one time and if you did not go to get your banding, odds are you would still be 45lbs heavier-if not more. I have been heavy my entire life and have played the dieting game many many times just to gain it back and more until finally i was so fed up with myself, i needed to do something different and thats when i made the choice of the surgery.

I am sort of in the same situation. i was banded in Oct 2009 and have lost 20-30lbs fluctuating because i gave up on myself. I recently decided that I need to suck it up, quit feeling sorry for myself and DO something about it. First I thought of the same thing I told you-if I didn't make that change, I would be heavier than i am now. Secondly i jumped off of my butt and did something about it-I got a new exercise program. I started doing the Biggest Loser game for the Xbox Kinect. I know its so hard when you feel tired but i just pushed myself to do it and since about a week and a half ago-i dropped 6lbs! I feel great and it helps me to make better choices. I am like I just worked my ass off to get those lbs off-no a cookie is NOT worth it! grant it, we will always make bad choices once in awhile but we are all human! good luck with your new start...if you need friends/support just friend me! I am trying to get more support on here myself because even though my family/friends are super supportive-they didn't have this done so they will never truly understand!

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[OnMyWay2Thin 45]

Don't give up! It is hard but then again anything worth something usually is. I was where you are, I lost a lot, then regained, and now I'm losing again. I try and look at every pound as a milestone and that gives me the motivation to try harder. Sounds like you have had a really tough time and that you need a good break. Perhaps your medication for your illness makes you gain weight - I know my brother who is bipolar (and one of my best friends) was on one medicine and it made him gain weight. Just a thought, I'm not sure if that is the case with you...

Regardless of the reason, keep your head up and go for it! We all can do it, it just takes the staying power to keep on track.

Good luck to you!