To tell or not to tell, that is the question

[stateofzen 46]

A note: I have in fact had my gallbladder out, so I didn't have to worry about actually needing the surgery in the future Keep that in mind, any late readers!

[vickyd 24]

I too haven't told many people - my husband, kids, mother and mother in law. I had my surgery on a Thursday and went back to work the following Tuesday. I just took vacation time and when they asked what I was going to be doing I just said I had a lot of odds and ends that needed to be taken care of. As far as the liquid diet goes, I told everyone that I was working with a nutritionist who wanted me to "kick start" my new diet with a liquid diet to detox my system and everyone accepted that explanation. I really struggled with my decision to not tell many people but I have some very judgemental people in my family and I just didn't want to deal with them about this. In the end, I talked to my therapist about it and he said that I shouldn't feel obligated to tell anyone because it wasn't any of their business. That made me feel better about my decision...

[Kymba 1]

If you dont want to tell, that is your choice...Since your liquid diet will be filled with Protein shakes...just simply say you are trying a Protein shake Diet. I am sure there are some out there and then you wont have to say a word.

Feeling confident that this the right step for me. Scheduled to attend the Bariatric Specialist seminar in May and go from there. Work in a hospital and have seen several coworkers successfully lose weight, who told very few people of their surgery. Have friends that I eat lunch with, some of which are being successful with weight watchers who I suspect will think I'm taking drastic measures and instead think if I just "worked harder" I could lose weight and keep it off too. I've been overweight all my life. I've successfully lost up to 40 lbs with WW, but gained it all back. With Diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, I realize that lapband is what I need as a tool to help me achieve my goals and live a longer, healthier life. I'd like to not tell anyone but immediate family, but when I need to be on a liquid diet for so many weeks, it's hard to figure how to have lunch with the crew without so many questions about my change in food intake. Any suggestions? How did those of you that chose to keep this decision private do it without people questioning your eating habits when you were on shakes etc?

[judyashburn 0]

I too am struggling with this question right now. I just started my 3 month pre surgery diet plan (per my insurance company), The only person that knows that I'm doing this to prepare for the lapband is my husband. I mentioned the lapband to a coworker last year and she flipped out that I was even considering going that route instead of adjusting my diet and exercising. I'm taking this journey day by day and trying not to worry too much about what I'm going to tell my friends and family (or if I even tell them at all).

If you dont want to tell, that is your choice...Since your liquid diet will be filled with Protein Shakes...just simply say you are trying a Protein Shake Diet. I am sure there are some out there and then you wont have to say a word.