I cried for the first time...

[54Shirley 105]

Lets face it..... I know i've heard for many year... you have such a pretty face...... well most of us "fat girls" do. But we also had wonderful up-beat attitudes, great personalities, and a loving caring giving soul..... When we lose the weight we still have all this and now we are healthier and we look HOT..

They just have skinny.......

You nailed that !

You got that right!

[ElizabethNYC 1]

Lets face it..... I know i've heard for many year... you have such a pretty face...... well most of us "fat girls" do. But we also had wonderful up-beat attitudes, great personalities, and a loving caring giving soul..... When we lose the weight we still have all this and now we are healthier and we look HOT..

They just have skinny.......

I LOVE this!!! And it's sooo true.

[jennifer1 180]

I really wish people would mind their own business!!! I too have decided to only share that I had WLS with only a select few. People assume its the easy way out and it's so not the case. I've only had my consulation and hope to be banded in May. I work in health care and those nurses she be reported!!! That is totally unacceptable and just plain ignorant. Congrats on your decision to take charge of your health and dont ever let someone feel bad about a decision you made for YOUR life!!! Best wishes hun.

Jennifer

[Kymba 1]

You know the funny thing about these really skinny chicks is....eventually some of them will end up on the FAT side of the scale. They dont see it but they will. Take a look at the garbage they put in their mouths each day and then logically think about how long their bodies can actually sustain that without some sort of damage. WLS is not easy, in fact it takes an awful lot of discipline. It is one thing to try and count calories and attempt to eat the right foods without the band, but once the band is placed, not only are we trying to do that, we also have to watch the amount of food intake and be more in tune with out bodies so we dont cause slippage are stretching in the band area. As the veteran bandsters know, that is no easy feat...so WLS is NOT the easy way from my perspective. Ignore those fools and sit back and wait for the day they are tipping the scales and you are nice and thin and eating healthy all the time.

So through this journey, I have focused on my health and the positives of WLS. I haven't felt that it was for vanity, I mean come on I would be lying if I said I wasn't looking forward to struting a small size infront of a few ex husbands... haha

But today, for the first time I found myself momentarily ashamed... Disgusted at myself, and distraught over my decision...

I sat at my desk, choking down my "shake" wishing and longing for a Milky Way to be quite frank, as I over hear a group of nurses... NURSES standing at my desk talking about WLS. Of course, being on the "Band Wagon" so to speak, I listen...

"People that have weight loss surgery are just lazy, if they spent half the time and effort they put into surgery they would just lose the weight."

"Obesity isn't a disease, its called being lazy and wanting attention."

All of this coming from a group of women that probably never broke the 130lb mark. It didn't register in my head immediatly.. It took about 30 minutes for it to really hit me on my way home.. SERIOUSLY U THINK IF I WANTED ATTENTION I WOULD CHOSE NEGATIVE FATTY ATTENTION??? WTF... I will admit this.. I cried... a lot on my way home tonight, wondering what other people say or think of me.. While this wasn't a direct insult to me, I sure as hell am taking it that way. Am I just being lazy, were all my weight loss attempts just not enough, did I not dedicate myself enough...

I have been very open and honest about my journey... sharing and educating as much as I can.. I even found myself this morning asking myself as I read some blogs and post on this lapband support site.. Why would people hide this, and make it this HUGE secret??? It is such an amazing gift... Well my friends these SKINNY BITCHES I work with have given me that reason.. I however am not going to stop.. I am going to continue to be open and honest, and quite frankly next time I overhear their conversation I will speak up, and kindly ask them to move their conversation away from the "fat lazy wls chick".

Good night my friends, and thanks for letting me vent off a little...

P.S. We r just waiting on a date.. should be getting one soon!

[ElfiePoo 109]

The reality is that most of the world views fat people as lazy, weak, stupid slobs lacking in pride and self-control. Sadly, some of these people are fat themselves. Most have their own demons but they don't see this as a character defect...as they do obesity.

I agree with others that you need to speak to someone, no names necessary, because their behavior was very unprofessional. They can 'think' what they like, but should keep their mouths shut. It's called 'sensitivity training' and doesn't just apply to race, sex, religion or the handicapped.