Mind over matter and I am failing big time...

[LookatmeNow34 25]

Havent been on the site in while... Since my last unfill the first of february I have been living like a free bird..lol

I WAKE daily with the intentions of doing what's right but can not resist the temptations of sweets. I went to get a fill 2 weeks ago and because I said I was not making great food choice but still could not eat a large plate of food the clown felt I didnt need a fill.... Well i really took notice to my eating habits after leaving an I can eat a plate of food and some... Now that requires a fill... Nevertheless I should be able to control my outcome without a fill, so I am vowing to start fresh and get it right. I beating myself up with the mindset dieting still ... How can I live the rest of my life worrying about everything i eat..I am a prisioner to my body:(

[ElfiePoo 109]

The best thing you can do is stop eating anything with sugar in it. Sugar just creates cravings for more sugar. The more you eat, the more you want. Unfortunately, your band isn't going to help you with that so it's going to have to be something you take control of...especially since those sugary things generally turn out to be sliders that go through even when we have too much fill.

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[Phranp 46]

Havent been on the site in while... Since my last unfill the first of february I have been living like a free bird..lol

I WAKE daily with the intentions of doing what's right but can not resist the temptations of sweets. I went to get a fill 2 weeks ago and because I said I was not making great food choice but still could not eat a large plate of food the clown felt I didnt need a fill.... Well i really took notice to my eating habits after leaving an I can eat a plate of food and some... Now that requires a fill... Nevertheless I should be able to control my outcome without a fill, so I am vowing to start fresh and get it right. I beating myself up with the mindset dieting still ... How can I live the rest of my life worrying about everything i eat..I am a prisioner to my body:(

There's lots of good news here, Sdart.

Good news: You have the lap band! YAY! Surgery and recovery are behind you.

Good news: Even if you are not ready to use your "tool' (yes, I know everyone, "tool" is a 4 letter word) right now, when your head is in the right place ... it is waiting for you to fill it and do what it takes to lose weight.

Good news: You do NOT have to live the rest of your life worrying about everything you eat and you are also NOT a prisoner to your body. Ask any successful bandster and they will tell you that they (myself included) do not "worry about everything 'we' eat". Once we decided that we truly wanted to change our lives, that's what we did. And if that meant changing the way we eat ... it wasn't a "worry", it was a "choice". That's what life is all about, making choices. Sometimes that means choosing the hard right over the easy wrong. Saying that is easy, but I know that doing it ... when you are not ready ... is NOT easy.

Good news: You are NOT a prisoner to your body, but if you decide to believe that to be true you make it your reality. Think about it, how does eating something sweet and then beating yourself up afterward serve you? How does it help you achieve your goal of losing the weight? It doesn't. So, stop beating yourself up and take control. THIS IS NOT A RACE, IT IS A MARATHON. Take baby steps. Do what you can and if you slip, just pick yourself up, brush yourself off and start again. Don't let this overwhelm you. Stop doing to yourself what society has done to overweight people like us all our lives ... make us feel like there is something "wrong" with us because we are not thin. It is not a crime to enjoy food, but it is unhealthy if we eat our way to being obesity. We are not stupid, or lazy, or ugly, or weak, etc. We are good people, and we should be good to ourselves.

I'll tell you something Sdart, I have been struggling with trying to get my carbs down low -- to no avail. But, I don't beat myself up about it. I step up my exercise (which is merely walking and extra 2-3 miles a day). BELIEVE ME, 2 years ago I NEVER would have believed someone if they told me that I would look forward to getting up at 5 a.m. M-F to walk 2 1/2 miles before going to work. And I REALLY would not believe them if they said that I would take clothes to work so I could add another 2 miles to that on my lunch AND that I would stop on my way home from work to walk another 1+ miles. I PROMISE you, this was UNHEARD of before my band. After doing some reading I decided to only walk M-F, but the past few weeks I have been getting up on Saturday mornings to walk 3 miles at the Marina (it's so beautiful there). But it took TIME for me to change. I was banded June 15, 2009. I didn't start walking CONSISTENTLY until November 2010. You will change your life (and your mind) when you understand that YOU have the power to make this happen. You really do. Read this forum. Write about how you are feeling. Listen to our body to know when you are physically hungry and when you are head hungry. There's a lot of help on this site, use it!

Elfiepoo is right, if you can give up sugar you will see BIG changes in your weight loss. If you cannot do it right away, that's okay too, but at least you will know that is an option when you are ready to go that route. We are here to support you.

YOU CAN DO THIS!!

~Fran

[al0vely 24]

Havent been on the site in while... Since my last unfill the first of february I have been living like a free bird..lol

I WAKE daily with the intentions of doing what's right but can not resist the temptations of sweets. I went to get a fill 2 weeks ago and because I said I was not making great food choice but still could not eat a large plate of food the clown felt I didnt need a fill.... Well i really took notice to my eating habits after leaving an I can eat a plate of food and some... Now that requires a fill... Nevertheless I should be able to control my outcome without a fill, so I am vowing to start fresh and get it right. I beating myself up with the mindset dieting still ... How can I live the rest of my life worrying about everything i eat..I am a prisioner to my body:(

I can't believe they will not give you a fill if you feel like you are overeating. When I go for my monthly doctor visits we talk about how much you can eat at a sitting ... they ask can you eat more than a specific size plate, are you drinking your calories, are you taking your Vitamins, are you exercising. If I am losing 1 - 2 pounds per week I don't get a fill ... if not I have gotten a fill.

I don't have the sweets craving you talk about but I have one restaurant that I can't go past w/o stopping for desert ... yesterday I stopped and got a piece of pecan pie only. I ate half the pie yesterday and will finish it off today. The last time I had something sweet was 2 weeks ago.

[al0vely 24]

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Elfiepoo is right, if you can give up sugar you will see BIG changes in your weight loss. If you cannot do it right away, that's okay too, but at least you will know that is an option when you are ready to go that route. We are here to support you.

YOU CAN DO THIS!!

~Fran

I totally agree w/Fran you and I can do this . !

It took me 3 months before I would even attempt to do the E word ... but I can say that it is actually causing me to lose because I had stalled.

[Rachael 4]

I can't believe they will not give you a fill if you feel like you are overeating. When I go for my monthly doctor visits we talk about how much you can eat at a sitting ... they ask can you eat more than a specific size plate, are you drinking your calories, are you taking your Vitamins, are you exercising. If I am losing 1 - 2 pounds per week I don't get a fill ... if not I have gotten a fill.

I don't have the sweets craving you talk about but I have one restaurant that I can't go past w/o stopping for desert ... yesterday I stopped and got a piece of pecan pie only. I ate half the pie yesterday and will finish it off today. The last time I had something sweet was 2 weeks ago.

I can't wait to get to the stage. I have been avoiding all sweets for awhile because I can't stop at 1/2 piece of pie. That is awesome and gives me hope that I can eat sweets in moderation to one day.

[vlp1968 83]

You've already gotten lots of good advice. My 2 cents is to focus on the what your eating, and worry about portions when you have restriction. Eat low carb, low fat, high Protein. I eat lots of lean protein, like chicken, fish and lean port loin. This should keep you from gaining and you might even loose a litt.e Best wishes!

[Llyra 3]

I confess I still eat sugar and expect to continue eating it in the future. Moderation works better for me than complete elimination. I've had to give up bread and other foods I really loved, and it is nice to be able to give myself a treat that doesn't get stuck.

Moderation is the clue, of course- those six Oreos, one ice cream cone, and a candy bar days are guarenteed to not only kick my butt but pad it as well. I also don't feel so good with that much sugar raging through my system. But knowing that I CAN have it if I really want it keeps me from feeling deprived and sorry for myself.