I don't really know how to ask this question??

[Kymba 1]

Hi all,

I really don't know how to ask this question, but my significant other is afraid to have relations after surgery because I will have a port in me. He thinks he will hurt me somehow. (men thats all they think about sometimes I think) I told him, I have read people exercise, do sit-ups, work out and are not reporting any issues. Is this something he/we should be concerned about? I feel a bit embarrassed asking this question...

[123crod 170]

My port is on the bottom of my braline in the middle and now that I have lost 84 lbs it does hurt if he puts a lot of weight or pressure there, but it is easy to avoid. You will figure out a way.

Cheri

[54Shirley 105]

Hi all,

I really don't know how to ask this question, but my significant other is afraid to have relations after surgery because I will have a port in me. He thinks he will hurt me somehow. (men thats all they think about sometimes I think) I told him, I have read people exercise, do sit-ups, work out and are not reporting any issues. Is this something he/we should be concerned about? I feel a bit embarrassed asking this question...

Tell him if he's not a ELEPHANT you'll get by.... Also there are other ways in case you are to sore for a while.

I have a hunch he won't be to disappointed...

Tell him to chill !!

[54Shirley 105]

Hi all,

I really don't know how to ask this question, but my significant other is afraid to have relations after surgery because I will have a port in me. He thinks he will hurt me somehow. (men thats all they think about sometimes I think) I told him, I have read people exercise, do sit-ups, work out and are not reporting any issues. Is this something he/we should be concerned about? I feel a bit embarrassed asking this question...

[Melissannde 41]

Hi all,

I really don't know how to ask this question, but my significant other is afraid to have relations after surgery because I will have a port in me. He thinks he will hurt me somehow. (men thats all they think about sometimes I think) I told him, I have read people exercise, do sit-ups, work out and are not reporting any issues. Is this something he/we should be concerned about? I feel a bit embarrassed asking this question...

Please don't be embarrassed, we're discussing a medical problem/condition and should be able to talk about things freely.

Once you're cleared for such activity by your doc, the port shouldn't be an issue at all. If he's all that worried, tell him you will take the lead and if anything at all feels uncomfy, you will let him know. There will be a period of time that the area over the port will be more tender.. but that won't be forever.

I do situps, lift weights, do yoga & pilates, have sex, do housework.. sometimes I WISH my port kept me from some of these activities.. LOL

[honk 780]

How far out are you from sugery? Until the port area is complete healed it could hurt to put pressure

[Kymba 1]

My surgery is scheduled for April 6, 2011. Thank you everyone or your response. I will have a chat with him and hopefully settle him down. I am hoping when I see the surgeon for my pre-op visit 3/25 he tells me where the port will be placed.

How far out are you from sugery? Until the port area is complete healed it could hurt to put pressure

[ElizabethNYC 1]

My doctor gave us a list of Q&A's and one of them was when can you resume sexual activity and the answer was 4 weeks. The doctor said you'll find a way so that it doesn't hurt if you put to much pressure on the port.

[mattie7632 24]

4 weeks? That's crazy, I was fine for that in days! Of course, no craziness allowed-dont' want to cause internal damage!

My doctor gave us a list of Q&A's and one of them was when can you resume sexual activity and the answer was 4 weeks. The doctor said you'll find a way so that it doesn't hurt if you put to much pressure on the port.

[Tobeme 0]

My surgery is scheduled for April 6, 2011. Thank you everyone or your response. I will have a chat with him and hopefully settle him down. I am hoping when I see the surgeon for my pre-op visit 3/25 he tells me where the port will be placed.

Don't be embarrassed, I was wandering about this myself. My husband has not even asked this question but I was worried and from the sounds of it once I heal that part of my life (wink wink) wont be affected. My surgery is scheduled for April 8 Good luck with yours. Keep us posted.

[stateofzen 46]

I'm going to be really frank here-- my experience is that sex is not only fine, but so much better after the lapband.

I did have port pain for at least a month after surgery-- I think i was on the longer end of things with that. But, after that, no problems. Sex is more enjoyable now, because as I've lost weight,I've lost it everywhere-- and it's much easier to get the stimulation to orgasm during sex than it was at my heaviest. Not only that, I have more energy and more interest.

[Jess_Zamora1310 0]

So how long should one wait before being intimate with your partner? My boyfriend has been buggin me to make sure I ask the dr lol But I'm a bit shy.

[54Shirley 105]

So how long should one wait before being intimate with your partner? My boyfriend has been buggin me to make sure I ask the dr lol But I'm a bit shy.

Your Dr. will tell you how long to wait. You might lean towards that, you know give a hint.

Like when can we have sex? He will be able to tell from that straight forward question.

[Jess_Zamora1310 0]

Your Dr. will tell you how long to wait. You might lean towards that, you know give a hint.

Like when can we have sex? He will be able to tell from that straight forward question.

lol Thanks, I guess it's time to make my big girl panty-lo-knees (pants) be some good use lol. Im sure they hear this stuff all the time, but idk why I get so nervous

[54Shirley 105]

lol Thanks, I guess it's time to make my big girl panty-lo-knees (pants) be some good use lol. Im sure they hear this stuff all the time, but idk why I get so nervous

It's Normal ! But he is a Dr. so,,,, he hears it all, and they got all the answers.