31 single and banded

[happiness1 1]

Hi all! How does everyone deal with being single and banded. I sometimes fear that being banded could be a turn off... what does every one else think?

[Libbyjane1976 1]

If it's a turn off then oh well the guy isn't worth your time! thats what I think! If you tell them that you have the band they should be supportive and respect what you've gone through and are currently going through. I've recently found myself on the dating scene after breaking up with my boyfriend of more than a year and i've been very up front about having the lapband and so far they've respected my decision and have even given me kudos for taking charge of my life.

[Noturningback15 45]

I have only been on 2 dates since being banded last year and it was no problem. I was up front that I will not be eating a lot because of it. One person said good I can order you a happy meal then you are a cheap date! NOT! LOL!

[ssankofa73 2]

Thats a great way to look at it notturningback11

[klariade 7]

I was banded before I started dating my husband. He knew about it from the very start, and was extremely supportive. Now he even knows all the bandster terms and claims I have a "stuck" face! LOL! If the guy is worth it, he will take the time to understand your band and why you have one. I would be upfront about it, because any guy who would be turned off by you having a band should be crossed off your list of potential husbands!

[MsBlujai 4]

@notturningback11 I have been called a cheap date too. It's funny to me. @happiness1, I date... It's not a first date conversation for me. It shouldn't be an issue. For those I have told they have always been supportive. I think it was harder for me to accept than it has been others. Once I get past all of my insecurities dating will be a breeze. Good Luck!

[happytobemefinally 1]

I guess I'm deceiving. Never in my life have I had the attention I do now and Spanx happens to be my partner in crime. I'm at a loss though...I have plenty of first and second dates then dismiss them because I know that what they see isn't ever going to be what they get. It took me forever, and hundreds of pounds lost on my own to finally get this surgery....I have issues woth people (as well as myself) thinking I'm simply out of control.

I know something needs to change but for now I'm ok with just being wanted for the first time ever. We'll see how long that lasts!

[Sarz 0]

Interesting concern really I havent mentioned it to anyone at all