Hero worship...

[crushin' 0]

Posted this in another thread...but this one is busier, so maybe it will get some responses!

I haven't seen this topic before, and I really need to talk to someone about this. I am an active member on the board, but had to use another name to ask this, as I have my surgeon's name in my tag (and I gave him this site just last week to add to his research tools)!

I have developed this really strong crush on my surgeon! I :embaressed_smile: :heart:

I am sure that this hero worship (for changing my life), along with his confidence and openness makes me almost giggly in his presence. It doesn't hurt that he is sexy and good looking! I mean, I kind of like it, but I don't want to get too distracted (my very otherwise supportive husband will not be amused if he figures it out, I am sure). On the PRO side is that It is definately an additional motivator for me - I was his first patient and I really want to be successful for him, as well as for me of course.....:wink_smile:

Help! My best friend is starting to kid that I want to be his next 'trophy' wife, after I meet my goal!

Who else has exprienced this and how long after surgery did it last???

[HeatherinCA 10]

Haha I haven't, but my surgeon is pretty cute too I don't think there is anything wrong, unless it's interfering with your life.

[trishfish 1]

My surgeon looks like mr. bean....haha

ItsOk to crush...i think its almost "normal" he's changed your life!!!! But as long as its just a crush and nothing more giggle all you want...And if it helps motivate you that's an added bonus

[ElfiePoo 109]

Perhaps it's just my age but over the decades I've watched marriages break up because of a 'crush'. Even in the cases where there's no possibility of the other person reciprocating. I've counseled people who divorced spouses because after a time, the daydream they built up in their head over this 'crush' made them hypercritical and dissatisfied with their spouse.

My .02...crushes are for teens or even unmarrieds. For the those of us who are married, turn our thoughts back to our spouse. In the long run, it's far more emotionally profitable.

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[amberakamom 13]

My surgeon is 33 and gorgeous. If I wasn't married I'd definitely have a crush on him! lol

[renniemommietoo 1]

hey, have fun with it. My R.E. is a doll, I've thought, ya know we could always change 'baby daddy's' hehehee....

[eko 1]

I think that when we go through something emotional, or really personal to us, that we can develope a "crush" on the person who helps us through it, or to be successful, especially when you spend time with this person and even yourself emotionally. Weightloss journey's are like that, personal and emotional, or at least mine is. Be careful of wrapping yourself up emotionally with your doctor. Remember, your are his patient, one among many. Crushes can make us feel good and motivate us, but don't let it become anything more. You need to be successful for yourself, not your surgeon.

[Kalipso2 25]

i really think what you're feeling is absolutely normal! he has guided you to a healthy and happy new life!

when i met my surgeon i thought he was cute, funny, sincere, supportive, etc.

then i got to thinking.... ewwwww he saw me NAKED looking my WORST lol

no harm in crushin'

[HeatherinCA 10]

then i got to thinking.... ewwwww he saw me NAKED looking my WORST lol

Yea, that pretty much squashes it for me ahha

[newlifekp 0]

Hmmm....I like my dr. too, but now that I think about him seeing me at my worst (and my insides), that takes care of that visual!

[TracyNYC 4]

I think it is pretty normal, but if it gets too much, you need to do something about it.

The whole "seen me naked" thing made me laugh b/c when I got on the operating table, I suddenly realized that EVERYTHING would be hanging out. My last thought before going out was "$hit, I should have shaved". (I don't know how I thought they were going to operate if it wasn't ALL hanging out.)

[susidivah 0]

i really think what you're feeling is absolutely normal! he has guided you to a healthy and happy new life!

when i met my surgeon i thought he was cute, funny, sincere, supportive, etc.

then i got to thinking.... ewwwww he saw me NAKED looking my WORST lol

no harm in crushin'

you know Kalipso this almost did it for me both with my cute general surgeon (the one who first told me I had cancer) and my cute bariatric surgeon... funny the nakedness, no makeup, major bedhead look didn't bother me when I was in the moment...

There are pros and cons to my thinking when it comes to crushing on my surgeons... I also work in the medical field... mental health