I seriously could have slapped her

[arittel 0]

So this morning at work myself and two of the other ladies in the office went to coffee break. One of them (the family nutrition program assistant) asks me how I'm doing with the band. I replied well right now I'm down 21lbs since pre-op diet (Sept 29th) and 35 lbs all together. I said, I get a fill on November 23rd, so that will add restriction as I have no Fluid in my band right now. I was having a few pretzels (I know probably not the best choice but that's what I had). Then I went to take a bite of my little pretzel stick thing and she smacked my hand that held the pretzel (literally 3 inches from my face) and said "well then you shouldn't be having that!"

Excuse me broad, you are NOT the one living with this band, you are NOT the one who went through the pre-op diet, all the testing, the surgery, the dehydration, and besides that if I want a bite of a damn pretzel I'm going to have it!

I could NOT believe she did that. I was literally so dumbfounded I couldn't even reply. I just ate my pretzels chewing very LOUDLY to annoy her! Sorry just needed to vent.

[AmandaGW 1]

WOW! I cannot believe that! What is wrong with some people?!?! So sorry you have to put up with that kind of behavior! I'm glad it wasn't my hand she slapped, I would have gone off on her.

[shadena32 0]

Oh i really needed that laught this morning! You are so silly! Get your vent on !!!!!!

[ronnie87 8]

Wow, how rude can a person be? I guess she's just so used to telling people how to eat since she's a nutritionist's assistant that she thinks she knows what you're going through, too. I'm getting the LapBand in about 5 weeks and my father is very judgmental about everything I eat as well. (If I had a nickel for every time I have heard, "Is that on your diet?" for the last 2 years I would have about $100. Which, coincidentally, would probably get me a fill once I get my band.) I would just explain to her that you don't appreciate her comments, and you certainly did not tell her about your surgery so she could judge your eating habits from here on.

BTW, 35 pounds is great - congrats!

[shadst8 8]

If you are not afraid of jail or other consequence, next time go ahead

Seriously, I cannot stand people who become an expert on my body. That is why I say something smart like, "Oh, when did I sign over power of attorney over my body to you?

[ElfiePoo 109]

"Oh, when did I sign over power of attorney over my body to you?

LOL...I like this one although I'm not sure I could contain myself enough to be even that polite.

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[Cleo's Mom 257]

You need to speak to this woman in private and say:

"I just want to let you know that what you did with slapping my hand away while I was trying to eat a pretzel was not only very inappropriate and rude, it was embarrassing. You made me feel like an errant child. I am an adult and I have managed my journey carefully with the lapband and I know what my limitations are and what my food choices allow. I work with my nutritionist closely and am doing fine. Also, in the future, I would prefer that you not ask about my band in front of other people. If you are sincerely interested, then we can discuss it in private. I'm sure you will understand. Thank you."

And then leave.

However, if you are someone who is uncomfortable with personal confrontations, then put it in a letter and send it to her through inner-office mail.

Edited November 12, 2010 by Cleo's Mom

[xardoz 1]

Then I went to take a bite of my little pretzel stick thing and she smacked my hand that held the pretzel (literally 3 inches from my face) and said "well then you shouldn't be having that!"

This is not rudeness. This is assault. This person has NO RIGHT to touch you, certainly not to strike you.

You need to report this to your human resources office. A verbal insult or rudeness could be handled with a word in private, but this is beyond that.

And then, if it happens again, mace her (in self-defense, of course) and call the police.

[arittel 0]

I'm not a person who is afraid of confrintations by any means. I was just so awe-struck that I couldn't think of anything fast enough. If it comes up or happens again you can bet your butt I will be saying something. I have no desire to address her in private. She had the guts to do this in the breakroom -in front of others, I promise that I will address it (if it happens again) in front of everyone. I may use the power of attorney of my body line

I know and realize that this is just in her nature because it is what she does for a living (telling people what to eat).

I honestly believe that she is just comfortable with me (we are all very close co-workers) that she did that without thinking. All of my co-workers know about my band. I had to tell them because I missed so much work when I was supposed to return. I had to be admitted to the hospital 3 times for dehydration. I have no problem with them knowing. As a matter of fact I'm very proud of myself for having the guts to go through with this life-altering process so I enjoy talking about it and explaining my experiences.

On a side note I do work for the county (which is in charge of the jail system here in town) and I've never been in trouble before so I'm sure they would let me out on a Personal Recognizance (PR) bond if a simple assult was to happen. LMAO!!

[xardoz 1]

She also has no right to strike any of the people she's "helping." If she does this to a client, one of them WILL sue. Lord knows I would if she did it to me.If she felt comfortable doing this in front of others in the breakroom, it WILL happen again. You need to report this to HR if only to protect yourself for when it happens again. You can then say you informed your employer of the problem and it persisted and you were only protecting yourself and your rights.

There is NO excuse for this kind of behavior whatsoever.

[MrsCabes 2]

I'm just astounded that she felt like she had a right to slap your hand! You're a better person than me...I might have punched her!

Like someone above said, it would be very good to have a convo with her, about her inappropriate behavior. That you are working with a team of doctors, nurses and nutritionists that know what you're doing and it's okay to eat a damn pretzel!

[pocketsfullofsunshine125 0]

This is not rudeness. This is assault. This person has NO RIGHT to touch you, certainly not to strike you.

You need to report this to your human resources office. A verbal insult or rudeness could be handled with a word in private, but this is beyond that.

And then, if it happens again, mace her (in self-defense, of course) and call the police.

lmao this too funny!!! sorry had to laugh!!!

[NYYnNYGFAN 0]

Don't sabotoged yourself to prove a point. This is hard. I've only been banded a few days but I'm thankful I didnt tell EVERYONE...only those who would support me and will not "nag, insult, blame, etc". I also think some people think this is the "easy way out" which if they knew anything...this is not. Ignore Ignorance!

[pocketsfullofsunshine125 0]

That is too funny that someone would even say anything the nerve of some people

omg i think i would have shoved the pretzels down her throat....

[Loving everyday 0]

I would of went off on her, HR would of had to come to stop me.

I went to girls weekend last weekend and I was drinking a little (sipping a small glass of wine) and this girl had a problem that I wasn't eating and drinking like crazy like the other were. I got up to use the restroom and when I got back I took a sip of my Water (I was sipping both) and it was pure rum. I was so heated after that, I ran to the restroom and spit it all out. I was in shock, how could somebody do that (mind you she didn't know I had the band). My sister was there with me and calmed me down or else I would of flipped out on her. She ended up saying her sorrys etc, but for the rest of the weekend I was so rude and mean to her.