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Hiya!I am new to all of this! Basically this is my story - I am 21 years old and have always had a problem with my weight I am a binge eater and a total comfort eater - i go over the top and then try to lose weight and go really strict and controlling on my food and so I am always yo yoing. I have spoken to the doctor and I have such a negative mindset (which I hate) I stress over the way I look and how other people view me. I am anti depressants and my weight completely controls my life and I have got to the point that I am fed up of trying and putting it back on again and that the only way I can get my life back is with the band! However I am sooooo nervous!! I have always had such bad eating habits that I am scared and dont trust myself - what if I still eat crap? have any of you found it different after having the band, I am motivated to lose weight by thinking of all the dresses I could buy and could get noticed for once but I am petrifed, what if I have this done and nothing changes, and my emotions still make me want to eat will i still binge or is that physically impossible. what did everyone else find? I just can't stress how nervous I am - I know this is the only chance I have to do something wihtout things getting out of hand and doing something silly but like everyone says its not a miracle cure but i was hoping that with exercise (which i do about 3 times a week anyway) would fall off just because my stomach makes me eat less?!?!I just can't imagine carrying on this way I just want to be able to live my life and enjoy going on nights out without getting scared and comparing myself to others!help?!?! (sorry about all the negativity my mind is just in overdrive!)Becky xxx

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Welcome!

Most of us have been exactly in your shoes. Maybe you still will eat a little bit of crap. It will be a smaller amount and you won't be able to binge like you have because the band simply won't let you. Are you ready to be healthy? Really ready? Can you wrap your brain around eating stuff that will feed your body well and keep you in good health? 'Cause eating JUST crap is quite self distructive, (been there, done that,) and in the end the only one who can be accountable to take care of you, is you.

The thing that the band helped me with was dealing with the hunger issue. When you diet, you get hungry so you want to cheat. With the band the upper part of the stomach forms a pouch which fills with a small amount of food. It turns out, that when the top part of the stomach is full, hormones are released that say "full" and those same messages keep the hunger from returning for four hours or so. Cool huh? In addition, you can only eat tiny amounts and feel completely OK with that. I still "cheat" sometimes with treats I like, but I've gone from a size 20 to a 6 and have a whole closet full of "thin" clothes that keep me from overdoing it.

What if you DON"T get the band and nothing changes?

Good luck on your journey!

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Man AnnieM,

What a great response, you make me want to run out and get banded all over again!:smile2:

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