Ugh! Difficult Roomate!

[puddin 7]

I'm considering moving out of my house. I currently own a house with my sister, but she's incredibly hard to live with, not because she has a difficult personality but because she's totally unmotivated. She's a workaholic with her business (she's a photographer), but does NOTHING to help at home. She's always just taking or editing photos. Our arrangement was for me to clean the inside of the house while she takes care of the outside. She does nothing outside. This weekend was the last straw for me. We had two Christmas parties at our house and both times she didn't help me get ready or clean up for them. Does this sound like the stupidest reason to move out? It's just so very difficult. I can't communicate with her. For her, asking for help is "bitching" at her. I've tried working out a plan with her; it never works. What would you do?

[HarleyNana 10]

Put a For Sale sign in the yard and see if that grabs her attention.

[sarabride2006 0]

It's a different story when you're dealing with family, over the typical college or young adult roommie. My guess she feels, that because you are sisters, you'll make up the slack. My suggestion is to clean up your things and let hers pile up. I do that with fiance' all of the time until he finally picks it up and starts keeping things clean because he's tired of dirty towels on the floor etc. If you keep "mommying her" then she's going to keep taking advantage of that, not intentionally--but it's natural instinct to take care of family and those you love. All else fails let her know you love her, but the living arrangement isn't working and she has 60 days to find a new place and buy out her ownership of the house. I for SURE couldn't live with either of my sisters (though they are my best friends), so I applaud you for trying. Good luck!

[banded_for_life 2]

Puddin...I know what you are dealing with. My sister and her family moved in with me after my ex left. It was the hardest year, 3 months, 2 days, 4 hours and 36 seconds of my life. lol...My sister is an obsessive-compulsive anal retentative neatfreak. I am not...I like to be comfortable in my surrondings. I moved out into my own apt with my daughter...we were both in heaven. Best decision I had ever made. It also saved my relationship with my sister. I would sit her down and have a heart to heart with her and if that doesn't result in any changes, then I would consider doing something else.

[rroswelltx 1]

WOW she sounds like my Hubby!!!! OMG!

[Anwyn 0]

My sisters are my two best friends. That said, I would go insane living with either of them. My twin sister stays with us often because she lives 3 hours away, and I want to kill her by the end of every visit. I think I would look at getting your own place if you can afford it. Or at the very least, but a duplex so that you can each have your own side, lol.