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Look at this way: we are holding eachother's hands. Maybe not literally, but in thought. We are in this together and need eachother to be successful. While my husband says he's okay with me having the surgery, he isn't the most considerate of my feelings right now. Don't get me wrong, he's a wonderful guy and I love him dearly, but he just doesn't understand the emotions of it all. It's really nice to be able to talk to others going through the same thing. I'm generally a really strong person, an even I am having doubts and fears right now. I've worked and waited for this for over a year, and I'll be darn if I'm going to back out now! It's the right thing to do. Good Luck to you! I'll watch for your posts so we can stay in touch!

thanks for the kind words Kittykat, (what is your name) you have a great way of saying things and I am grateful you took the time to give me a boost, I need it, I'm nervous. I live alone with my 10 year old son, he's nervous about me having surgery as the last few times he knew of someone having surgery they were soon passed away. my mom and my dad. so, I can't really discuss it with him and I don't have much family support either, my (overweight) sisters feel I should be able to do it on my own. Well you know the stories, I have more support from strangers on Face book and this site!

so, when I say I need some hand holding I'm not kidding. I'll post probably tomorrow and then as we know, Weds is the day! please do keep in touch.

Brenda

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I have read all the posts where people are days from getting LAP-BAND® and all of the sudden start to freak out. Well I am becoming one of those people. I am scheduled to have my surgery on Tuesday the 21st and all of the sudden I am a nervous wreck and I am thinking this is such a life altering thing am I really ready for this? Is this just normal presurgery jitters I mean do most people start to doubt themselves this close to surgery? I hate that I am doing this to myself it makes me a nervous wreck!!

Melissa

Hello Melissa...I am scheduled for the 21st also. I was admitted today for some cardiac problems that had to be checked out and cleared for my band tommorrow.. I am more nervous than I thought I would be. I have asked myself is this really what I want to do? I keep thinking about my family and know that this is what needs to be done if I want to live. I have had all day sitting here at the hospital to do nothing but think ....and I am ready. Good Luck to you

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Good Luck to everyone this week! I'm finishing up my posts for today, then I'm out until who knows when. My surgery is scheduled early, so I have to be there at 6:15 am to get started. I hope everyone does well and I'll see you all on the other side (Bandland!)

Woo Hoo!!!!!

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I am also feeling like backing out. My banding is scheduled for Oct. 14 and my family is not all that supportive. They don't get why I can't just stop eating and exercise without this. I am also worried about no alcohol because I like to have a beer now and then. :-(

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missmuffet I totally understand but you are doing this for YOU not your family though they will certainly benefit. I am a single parent and my Son is afraid for me to have surgery but I want to be around for him for a long, long time. I also want to be able to do more physical things without pain from carrying around this weight! I am scheduled for Sept 30th and though I am scared, I have made my decision and I am ready!! :rolleyes2:

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