Discouraged

[dancinbear 0]

Nat-

I haven't had the LAP-BAND® surgery. In fact i am on here roaming through the forum out of curiosity to see if it is something I want to do.

I've been overweight as long as i can remember. I just turned 40 and I weigh 385 lbs. I have a major obsession with food, but my health is starting to show signs of problems. Truth be told, I'm scared. I'm afraid that if I decide to get this lap-band®, that I'm gonna go crazy. But i also know that my 2 little girls and my wife need me around.

I have tried every diet known to man, but I always run back to the frig to reward myself after i lose 30-50 lbs. And the vicious cycle begins again.

All i wanted to say was don't get discouraged. Remember how you felt when you were in the place I am in right now. Keep looking forward and go for it. I need inspiration.

If anyone understands what i am going through right now, I would appreciate any advise you have from your experience. Not to take anything from Nat's post, but this may help me make my decision easier.

From another guy, let me just say that what made my mind up to get banded was that I finally realized that I really could not do this on my own like I had convinced myself I could for all those years. The more I thought about food I was going to miss, the more I realized that this was the food that was slowly killing me. I was banded 6 days ago. The liquid diet sucks, but you have to look at the larger picture in the weeks, years to come. I HAD to do this, and it sounds like you do to, but you really have to change your own life. Get back on the treadmill, a little at a time, do the diet the way they tell you to, and you will live to do way more than walk your daughter down the isle. Good luck bro.

[lashonda23 0]

Hey sweetie, don't feel discourage you made this choice for you to be better. Your wight will soon all come off. I know that i will not be banded until nov 11th and I have 200 pounds to lose. However what i have found to help me begin my journey is the Lap band Journey site. I love that site i track everything and it's lets me know about my calorie intake and my calories burned. It tracks my mood and gives me insiparational quotes. Also the great thing I personal find about it is you get to write yourself letters and have them delievered to your email account whatever date you choose. i have written myself two letters so far because I know from others experience that i will to at some point be discourage and I need to remember y I picked the lap band and what's it suppose to mean to me. I also know from being a social worker and young because i am 24 years old that not being social because of your weight is very unhealthy and you should maybe meet with a therapist. I am 389 pounds and i started my journey at 403 lbs, the biggest i have ever weighed even with bearing a child I never weighed that much. I actually started my journey for only health reasons and the fact that i got to big to even shop at just plus sizes stores. I never want to be small but a nice size 16 would do me good...then i can shop til I drop with my friends. Who I must say we are all big in some type of way which has helped my self-confidence a lot because we have that I am big and if you don't like it that's your problem attitude only problem is when i hit at least a 120 pounds more then all my friends and we can't shop together it brothers me. Sometimes i will not even let people give me a compliment then it is other times like yesterday where I wore my boots and got my hair done and was looking flyy i enjoy compliments then. I am just saying that i think you might really want to meet with a therapist and join a local support group so you can do peer to peer interation face on. I think it might help! From one young lady to another. DON"T GIVE UP!!!:puke: