In need of support

[shrinan 0]

Hi everyone! I am seriously thinking about getting the lap band from Dr.Ortiz in Mexico. The only problem is my boyfriend is super against it. He thinks I can work out and eat better and everything will be fine. What he doesn't understand is I have struggled my WHOLE life with being over weight and all the emotional stress that has on a person over a lifetime. I am just wondering if anyone has any suggestions on how I could get some support should I decide to go through with it. Thanks

[reverie 49]

If you feel it's best for you, then I say go for it. I too had people tell me with exercise/dieting I could lose weight. And yes, they were right, I could, but in the end I would gain the weight back. I needed something that would be long-term.

Why don't you try to explain to him how your weight has been an issue for so long and that you feel that Lapband would allow you to lose the weight and keep it off?

[JillianRN 0]

I would recommend that you research all aspects of the Band surgery. Make a notebook of that research, and go to a seminar. If he will go, have him go to the seminar with you. People in your life can sabatoge your dream for you in many ways. You have to know if this is this right decision for you. When people like us have suffered all of our lives that takes a toll and I believe makes us stronger in our convictions for change....Keep your head up and know that there are others praying for you...

[nancy_marie_00 10]

Personally I would not get any surgery in Mexico, just me, but by all means, do what will make you happy. I set up my surgery date in 2 weeks, and my husband was very against it in the beginning, but he is coming around. Good luck!

[Laura Lane 0]

hi, i say go ahead with the surgery, but i recommend you to check out Dr. Aceves and have your husband read his credentials....maybe with this he will be more convinced. wish you the best of luck.

[serenity55 15]

Hello,

It's always a good idea to get loved ones on board for the lap band, or any weight loss surgery because it's such a major change for us. If it takes time for your boyfriend to come around, please know that you can always come here for support. Also, you might look in the local forum in your state--or country if you don't live in north America--and maybe you'll find people in your area.

Good luck, and please keep us posted.

[shrinan 0]

Thank you so much for all your encouragement and great ideas! I am going to keep talking to him about it and hope that along the way he will warm up to the idea. I was also wondering if anyone lives in Minnesota like I do?

[amybethy 0]

I am also in minnesota and not yet banded but hoping to be before the end of the year. I am going with park nicollet hospitals in st louis park for my surgery.

[NanaDiane 0]

I can't say that my husband is all for my surgery, but I'm having it anyway. He's had to deal with all my health issues and I'm sure he'll feel differently after the surgery, when I start losing weight and my other health problems start going away because of the weight loss.

[renjie123456 0]

Thanks for this site very helpful.

[LeighaMason 19]

Never avoid (or never have) a life changing surgery based on what a boyfriend, husband, significant other, friend or family member thinks you should do. Listen to their advice, consider all the options, and then make a decision based on the facts you have collected.

You should do what you think is best for you. Period. You only get one shot at this life and you don't want to turn 40, 50 or 60 thinking what if.

I am not saying you should get the band, I am saying you should make an informed decision for yourself.