Emotional Wreck!!

[kms2010 0]

I have had about three days of uncontrollable emotions. I feel like I have no control over things not being able to eat is more serious than I ever imagined. Please help.

[pixistix 1]

You're not alone. This eating/weight thing is complicated. I know I have at times felt very "protected" by my excess weight. The more I lose, I know this is going to come up more and more. Here are some things that help me:

1. Take a walk. Even if it's just around the block, a little fresh air and movement helps me get out of fear and panic mode. If you're able, more exercise is even better.

2. Warm bath. Helps to relax.

3. Write down feelings. In a journal, on a piece of paper, or right here on this forum, if you want. Write down what happened, how you felt, what you want to do (something destructive like overeat?) and what you're going to do instead (new, positive behavior).

4. Talk to a friend. Let them know: I just need to vent for 5 minutes.

5. Therapy. This can be extremely helpful, especially if weight was related to larger issues. Many therapists will adjust their fee on a sliding scale, based on ability to pay.

6. Prayer / meditation. You don't have to be religious, just ask the universe for help.

Most importantly, know that we're all in this with you. At one time or another, most people on this forum probably go through the same thing. But I am willing to walk through whatever it takes to be thinner and healthier. I've been carrying this weight long enough. I'm letting it go now and will deal with the feelings as they come. I just try to remember that they can't kill me and the only way out of them is to walk through to the other side.

Feel free to pm me any time if you want to chat.

Pixistix

[JoonBug 0]

I feel for you, and can relate. I started a blog to help me. I used to love to write, and am hoping to restore that hobby. Somewhere along the way, the stress of life took over and instead of turning to my other talents, I turned to food for comfort! I had my surgery last week, and am still on Clear liquids per my surgeon's orders, and it is much more difficult than I thought it would be. Under normal circumstances of stress I would turn to food. Right now I can't, and it is tough cookies! See, there I go referring to food again!!! Lol.

You are not alone in your struggle! So take the good advice you get here and put it to use. It is helping me. Hugs!

My blog: Lap Bandit Girl

I just started it, so there is not much there!

[vlp1968 83]

I think therapy is a great idea. You need to learn healthy ways of dealing with your emotions. You can do this, but it does take work. You may not even need therapy long term, just someone to help you get started on a new healthier life. Good luck!

[kms2010 0]

:drool:THANKS SO MUCH FOR THE SUGGESTIONS & RESPONSES. I started writing in a journal yesterday just to get some things off my chest. Today I woke up with a new outlook on things. I did this for my health & it was the right thing for me. I am looking forward to much success on this lap band journey.

[Jachut 487]

I dont think that anyone can tell you that it simply wont be that bad afterwards, but truly it isnt :-) In fact, you can have a bit of a binge on what you love as long as what you love isnt say, a huge steak with a plate full of raw asparagus!! Not the case for most of us, ice cream and Cookies will go down fine and although its much much much easier to avoid too much of those foods and eat well when you dont have mindless appetite, you can still eat them and avoiding them will be more of a challenge than not being able to comfort eat.

Dont let that alarm you, the band really does give you previously unimagined willpower.

But for you obviously, certainly for me and indeed for most people, this will be the first time in our lives despite all the diets, that we've truly and honestly faced the fact that overeating does net some benefit to us and we're afraid to give it up. I backed out of seeing a surgeon TWICE before I got there. It was a really inportant experience for me - I'm not really an emotional eater, I have never got to the bottom of why I overeat but I realised that I was getting something out of it for the first time in my life. That really helped me for some unexplainable reason.

[JoonBug 0]

Happy for you kms2010!!!

[kminner 0]

Hi there. I was banded on 8/20 and am experiencing this quite a bit. The other night, I just broke down crying - didnt really know why - just cray crying. It then dawned on me that I wanted to eat something - not sure what - but something and not broth or Jello or popsicles - a hot dog ad fries maybe? and then i thought "will i every be able to have it again?" It was a rough night After some distraction with having to pick up my kids from band and cheerleading, I realized that I really have a very unhealthy relationship with food and this band has made me face it. Today, went to the mall to finish up some school shopping for the kids, was almost mad by the end of the trip and thought to myself "mall trips will never be fun again". Why?? because I cant eat all the junk. ok, so now I am rambling - I wanted to let you know that you are not alone. I understand what you are feeling. We can do this!!!