33 and single forever??

[feliciadawn 22]

I'm in the same boat as you! I will be 33 this year, still single, not that many friends. I'm a bit reclusive and I need a lot of alone time, but really, I haven't dated in a couple years now. I've been working on myself, and now that I've got that figured out...it'd be nice to have a guy! I was also on some sites, OKCupid and Plentyoffish.com, I would either get no messages, or the ones I would get were from freaks and losers (not to be rude, but..) I've been thinking about trying Eharmony, but I tried it once before (about 10 years ago) without much luck. Seems like all guys care about is how hot you are and how fast you will sleep with them. I got so sick of it that I took myself off all the dating sites, they just made me feel bad about myself. I don't like church, I don't like bars and clubs, and I work with mostly women... I'm interested in writing so taking a writing class which starts soon, and starting back at college in the fall. Maybe I'll meet someone there. I also signed up for a few groups on Meetup.com, we'll see if I actually make it to any meetings..haha.. If I hit 40 and i'm still single, my plan is to adopt a kid on my own. I'd rather be happy and alone than be miserable with someone I "settled" for.

[difa 114]

I'm 36, didn't get married until i was 32. I had a couple bad relationships in college, and i didn't date in High School. My wife got lapbanded last fall and I'm getting the lapband in June. I need to lose around 90-100lbs....I'm lucky that we (my wife and I) have a great looking kid...but I understand the "will i ever get married/in relationship" question. I must also say that I've had "man-boobs" since high school and in high school i weighed 160-170....and was just 10 lbs overweight...

[Jen75 33]

I met and married the man I met on match.com. He was completely opposite of who I "thought" I would be with. He met me at one of my highest weights and loves me for me. He is one of the biggest reasons I was so successful with my band. Please don't give up! The right guy is out there and will love you for you! I was 28 when I met him and married him when I was 30. Oh, and by the way, I didn't get many "hits" on the site either. It just happened.

[1shauna1 129]

To the OP, don't get discouraged. Dating is hard, especially when you're in your 30s and up. I know you said you don't get much response to your online dating and you don't post pics of yourself online....this is probably why. It's sad, I know but online dating, men want to see a picture. And the online dating sites always say the most responses have a few pictures. Try one of the secure sites (that you have to pay for like Match or EHarmony) because people on there are generally more serious about finding a relationship because it costs more to be on that site. They want to meet people.

[Pollyanna12 74]

There is some great advice here! 33 is not the end of the line. I got married at 38. I never thought I would be a "married" person. I was going through some really bad times when I met my hubby. I was certainly not looking fora manthen. I swear the angels brought him yo me :-).

I give youcredit for asking this guy out. I know lots of guys don'trealize how they sound. He may be very literal and said " not today" but couldn't t see past today. I am pretty forward, so next time I saw him I would say - did you meannot that day, or not ever? But that's just me.

Go out there and enjoy your life. Stop loking

[Pollyanna12 74]

And things will work out! Congrats on your weight loss and boost your Protein to help your hair. Good luck.

[jov 0]

I am in the same boat. I am on those sites and have mat strange men. I hope to loose weight and update my pic. I am 37and want to be married and have kids. I feel time is ticking.

[1shauna1 129]

The sites like Plenty of Fish and Lavalife, you get all kinds of weirdos on them because they're free sites. Of course there are some creeps on Match and E-Harmony, but a lot of the men are more serious because of the cost to join those sites. Good luck! You will find him out there!