Discouraged - Don't think I was ready for the band

[finallyncontrol 1]

I am on of those who agrees with Bob...walking and swimming in my pool is my game. I like to check out what is happening in my neighborhood and then I work out in our pool. Once the work out is done then I can relax in the pool but not until I work out. My doctor also agrees..you do not need a gym membership..we live in Florida there is so much sunshine and outside areas to see! I firmly believe you do need a positive attitude and believe in yourself and see yourself succeeding. Once you picture yourself succeeding then you need to follow your dreams one day at a time achieve all those mini goals on your way! I wish you the very best!!

[Lap2Fab 3]

Congratulations on losing 16lbs, that's 16lbs that you don't have to lose! You did it!

You need to find a way to get exercise in ways that interest you, joining a gym isn't for everyone, and going out and walking in public when you feel self conscience isn't easy either. But, when you go to work or shopping, park further way from where you would normally park. I used to get excited when an open spot was near the door, now I park away from all of the other cars. You can even grab a couple of cans of vegetables and use them as weights while you are watching TV. I agree...joining a support group is very helpful, or just coming on here more often and joining the conversation will help you in your journey.

Remember to drink your fluids, it's key to flushing your system and try every day to do something that makes you a little uncomfortable because eventually, you will form a habit and that will be your new lifestyle! Good luck to you!

[SunD1 0]

Congrats on your weight loss! I understand your discouragement and lack of enthusiastic exercising! But don't be so hard on yourself. Be kind to yourself. You have done something very good.

Now that you have it. . .think positive about it. I'm a big believer that our thoughts create a lot in our lives. Easier said than done, I know. Sometimes, I wonder. . WTH did I do? But. . then I figure. .well . .I got it and I'm gonna use it. You don't have to excercise every day for an hour. Start out slow and easy. There have been times, when I've made myself go for a walk and I am ornery about it and bitter :smile2: but by the time I'm done I feel so much better and it helps my depression. The trick is just doing it. Sometimes, I don't want to..then I say to myself, "DO IT ANYWAY!". Then I pout but I do it..

Hang in there. . you are doing fine. Treat yourself w/the same kindness you would your bestfriend and be patient. As others have said..you are worth it. YOU just need to know that.

[stefaniwg 172]

I totally understand how you are feeling. I am 4 weeks post op and have only lost 12lbs, 10 of which were in the first week! I exercise 5-6 times a week and I really don't eat a whole meal but several times during the day I will eat small amounts of food. As the others have said you need to find some type of way to get your body moving and to sweat! I have gotten very bored of the treadmill so I am looking for some other ways to exercise. Also since you are still fairly new to the lapband I'm sure you haven't gotten to your "sweet spot" yet and once you do I hear the weight will melt off of you !! I can't wait for that time to come. Don't give up on yourself we didn't gain all this weight overnight and it isn't going to come off over night either. Be encouraged and just keep going!! Good luck!

[ArmyWives 1]

Girl we have all been there, so dont be to hard on yourself... and CONGRATS on being HONEST WITH YOURSELF....

I use Curves, its 30 mins a day they suggest 3-4 times a week and its quick, easy, all woman, and its fun! I would suggest that you either wake up and hour earlier than you normally do, and do or on your way home from work make it your "on the way home stop"

You owe it to yourself to do this, you've already given yourself a great gift by getting banded, now get where you want to be and help the tool help you!

Best of luck and prayers.... Keep us updated!:smile2:

[vegasvampire 0]

Please....... Please..... DONT GIVE UP!!!!! I feel the same as you do, it is so slow.......but we can do it... I would love to be your band buddy... I was banded 6-28-10 and have a lot to learn about this, we can do it!! I eat something, it gets stuck, I have pain.... I wait a little bit...... Why do I go back and eat some more???? do I want to do this to myself?? No.... I have been on this site just reading about what everyone is doing... I have learned so much. Its never to late, a new day brings new beginnings.:smile2:

[Mel Mel 0]

I notice that when I'm doing good the motivation keeps my going and kick it up. I make better choices and exercise. But if I slip, the opposite happens. I lose motivation and don't exercise as much. I've been going through this recently. I felt better when I made healthy food choices and went to the gym more consistently.

So do I want to keep in a positive or negative direction?

So I'm working on getting myself back the other way. Working out with girlfriends or making myself go to the gym after work (I work 12hours overnight) helps a lot.

[Ms_C 1]

Good morning all!

Thank you so much for all the wonderful advice and the encouraging words. This site has really been a blessing. I will go on. I am not giving up. I just have days when I feel a little more discouraged than others. My schedule is pretty full. I’m a single mom. I have a 3 year old boy who is super active. I work 2 hours away from my home. My day begins at 4 am and I’m not back home till 7 pm. That doesn’t leave me much time to do much. After reading a few of your replies yesterday I started thinking to my self and said, “I can do this and I’m going to do it” and I did.

Yesterday, I decided to go for a walk. I took my son with me. He was so encouraging. At some point, he stopped walking and began running, so I had to run after him and when I would stop, he would say, “come on mom, catch me! Run”. We walk/ran a little over a mile. We had so much fun we’re going to do it again tonight and every day Mon-Fri.

If my 3 year old can do this, I can too. I am the parent and I have to set the example. Always! I do not want my child be become obese like I have. I know I can do it. I know I’m worth it. I will accomplish this goal. Maybe later than sooner but I will.

THANK YOU SO MUCH ALL FOR BELIEVING IN ME AND SUPPORTING ME!

For those who would like to stay in touch with me, yes, lets buddy up! If you don’t receive a friend request from me, send me one.

Sincerely,

Claudia

[Ondine 1]

that's great to hear! i'm kind of in a similar situation as you - i work 9-10 hour days and have an hour commute each way, so by the time i get home and deal with the kids and the house i don't feel like doing ANYTHING! just sit in front of the computer and play WoW! my only saving grace right now is that i have a co-worker who was banded about a month after me, so she and i have been motivating each other to go to the gym at lunch. hang in there, i know it seems slow now but i'll keep building and building and the more you lose, the more energy you'll have!

[goodlyfe 0]

Great news Ms_C.. Congratulations on getting started to exercising. I was banded on June 30 and two weeks ago felt the same way as you did. Getting started is the hard part but now I started exercising I feel so much better!! Now, I got walking 3-4 days a week with my little dog. He is my motivator because he forcrs me to walk faster because it pulls the leash which makes me keep up with him. It is a hard journey but we will complete it!!!