Banded and feeling sad?

[Spouse of T 0]

I was banded Aug 11, 2010 once I got home from the hospital I noticed I am feeling sad. Like a lost has happended in my life. I am getting stronger physically but I am feeling sad. I get my Protein in each day. Is this something to do with the lost of eating like I use to or should I be concerned? Anyone else feel sad for a while and then bounce back? Thanks for any help.:frown:

[Bree99 1]

In our surgery prep we were told that many people feel sad after surgery. It is common, but if it lasts more than two weeks you should tell your surgeon. Post surgery is a little anti-climatic for everyone. Try to focus on the very bright future ahead of you! You have taken an amazing step into your new life.

[TracyNYC 4]

I think the build up and the procedure itself are like a "high" and then......you are home w/ this thing in you and it's like "UMMM Now what?". I had post band blues too. It passed. Keep an eye on yourself and like Bree said, call the doc if it lingers.

In another post we were discussing how we had attitude changes too after starting to lose a bit. You can look forward to that too. It is awesome.

Best wishes!!! It is an amazing ride.

[chickadee81 0]

I think alot of it for me also was the fact that I wasn't "eating" my emotions and had to deal with them instead of stuffing my face. That one is kind of hard for me and sometimes even 8 months later I still struggle with it.

[ebtkm5 0]

OMG, I am feeling sad too and I'm reallly not sure why. I was banded on August 13th and all day I have been thinking, I just want this thing out of me and go back to being able to eat what I want, when I want but just now as I was typing this, I realized that would mean going back to being miserable in a different way. Sure I could eat myself silly and be happy for a few mins but duh, this is the entire reason I decided on the band because I wouldnt be able to just give in. This band is forcing me to do what I need to do to get healthy and start living my life.

[knixon39 0]

You are not alone with feeling sad or emotional. I was recently banded on 7/21 and it might sound crazy but I was scared of changing bcs I have been the same size for about 20 years. The first morning that I woke up, I thought oh my gosh, did I really do this? It is a life changing process and I think if you weren't feeling a little anxious, sad or emotional about changing not only your size but who you are as a result of it, that wouldn't be normal. Hang in there... Good luck to you.

[AmberK 5]

The 4th day post-op I called my mom 3 times that day bawling each time. I was feeling crappy, I was hungry, and I wanted to eat. I talked with a friend of mine who is a nurse and had the surgery and she said post surgery blues are common. Luckily for me I can get back on my anti-depressants to help with that.

[emma33 0]

I totally have the "post op blues?" I was banded on 8/12. Home from the hospital and a couple days later I was feeling sad. I also had feelings of remorse and doubt. I guess this is normal and will go away but its a scary feeling to doubt something that you were so sure about and worked so hard for. Its very confusing. The "high" is over and still in pain from the surgery. Wanting to eat and feeling so "inexperienced" and "new." How and when do you get past this?

[mlmdore 0]

It is normal, in my opinion. I was banded on April 22nd and I definitely remember feeling sad/doubts..I think overall it is an emotional process (the decision to do it, anticipation, actual operation, realization you have done this, fears, etc.) and you have to allow yourself a bit of time..four months out and I definitely have some blue days in addition to my good days..it is definitely a journey..the good thing though is that while I did have some initial tinges of regret and sadness post op, i am so glad I did this and have no regrets (except that I wish I had done it sooner). Good luck!

[Monica90604 0]

Hi,

I was banded on July 20th, just about a month ago. About a week out I was sad also, I almost felt like I had lost a friend. I then realized how much of an emotional eater I was and began to really feel the emotions and had to work through them without reaching for the fridge. I can compare it to a child losing their favorite comfort or security blanket in my case anyway. The feeling lasted about two weeks, and now I really couldn't be happier. I'm seeing the health changes and slight physical changes, it's the best thing I've ever done for myself. No regrets.

[NurseSophie 0]

I had a couple of bouts of severe sadness and I am one of those annoying people who get picked on for being so perky. :-) I really really struggled for a couple of days...prayed through it....got out there and exercised and it passed. (walking at the time) These two different times were pretty close to post op though so I was wondering if anesthesia had anything to do with it?

[khunt719 2]

After surgery, I just wanted to eat everything in site and felt sad when I realized that I could only drink it. I didn't use the band the way it should be used and gained weight for 6 months after getting it. After reading on this site, I came to understand how I should eat and what to eat. But in the beginning I was still using food to cover up any sadness, happiness, depression, gladness, excitedness, any feeling I had I used food to comfort me or to Celebrate. That is how my family has done it for years. I had to come to the reality that I had to change the way I looked at food and couldn't eat myself happy anymore. That is when the band started working for me. I think the sadness comes from losing the friend (food) you have come to rely on.

[BetsyB 9]

It's really common to experience sadness after any surgery. The upheaval from anesthesia and the trauma of the surgery itself really knock us out of whack.

As you lose weight, you might experience emotional lability due hormone fluctuations. Body fat is mildly estrogenic, and as it's lost, the serum concentration of estrogen can fluctuate.

Then, too, is the mourning many of us experience for our old "relationship" with food. This tapers off as you build a new, healthier one.

[Spouse of T 0]

Thank you everyone for responding. I am going to wait this sadness out. As many of you said....it's like losing a trusted friend who has been there for so long and now...gone. Yes, I am glad I made the decision to take back my health!!!! I am praying and asking God to direct me as I walk each day. Will let you know later how things turn out......

Thanks to everyone for the words of encouragement!!!!!!

[Bandedanddetermined 0]

Thanks for posting this. I've been hyping it all up to be my time of the month...but it's been something I've been upset about more than PMS can be blamed. I've found myself reaching for the fridge. I can by no means eat like I used to, but it's definitely more than I SHOULD be eating. I'm hoping another fill will make the difference I need and hopefully when the weight is coming off again (I've plateaued for the last 4 weeks) I will regain the confidence I need.