Spousal Support

[rkwilliams1013 0]

Deciding to finally get the lap band I felt like I was finally doing something good for myself. However, as I wait for my surgery date, I can't help but think of how my husband will hold up with all the dramatic changes that will be coming our way.

So I wanted to find out from all you post-op bandsters how your spouses did with the changes and how you helped transition from "old-you" to the "new-you".

My husband is so super supportive of my decision, but I do all the cooking in my household. We don't have kids, which is a good thing, but I'm concerned how to make the adjustments- Do you cook for just him although you're not going to eat it?

I know this is going to be a major lifestyle change not just for me, but for him too- I'm just not sure if he realizes that yet. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

[Shay7997 0]

My husband was amazing through the whole process, including when I finally reached goal. He even changed his diet with me, ate slowly with me, and lost 30 pounds just from doing what I do.

He did want to do the pre-op diet and the post-op diet with me but I wouldn't let him. I told him it was bad enough me doing it!

[AmberK 5]

Well, I have just started my journey and but DH told me today that he has already lost 8 lbs. First of all, we havent gone out to eat in a week. Secondly, he says he is trying to eat healthier and not as much. He has a lot of weight to lose and could really benefit from lapband but he wants me to be the guinea pig. Plus, he can drop weight like nothing if he exercises and watches what he eats. I do have kids though so I will have to cook meals for them and either I will plan on having a very small portion of what Ive fixed for them or just alter what Im doing to suit myself. But I still have a few weeks before I actually reach that point. Im still on pureed foods right now.

[vlp1968 83]

My feeling is that everyone can benefit from improving their eating habits. You make want to make a lean protien, veggie and starch for your family. You can eat the lean protien and veggie. Good luck!

[Melinco 1]

My Hubby eats what I eat, just more. I make pretty much the same stuff as I did before, but use healthier cooking styles (baking rather than frying, for example). Granted, he didn't eat the broth and pudding like I did right after the surgery, but now (7 months later), we eat the same stuff.

His brother owns a pizza place. So if Hubby gets a pizza, I'll either have a chef's salad or a tostada and taco from the Mexican place next door.

We don't have kids, but I'd be making them eat the same things as I prepare for dinner, unless of course they are eating baby food.

[Katy Castro 1]

Maybe sit down with your husband and discuss different meals that you can cook that are band friendly but will make him happy as well. Since he's supportive all ready, I bet you'll have little problems. And there are a wide variety of foods that you can still have with your band.

In our house we've made very minor adjustments and they're working for us. My partner wanted to lose weight as well so with all this healthy cooking, she's down 20 lbs in the time since I've had my band (9 weeks). But she'll have a sandwich for lunch and I'll just have the deli meat. It's been easy.

[LeighaMason 19]

The only time this should apply would be during the pre and post-op liquid and mushy stages and it depends on your personal will power. Can you cook without tasting it? Can he cook for himself for a month or two? After that y'all should be able to eat most of the same things. But I have found that since I have been banded our cooking at home has changed dramatically to healthier choices which is good for everyone involved.

[rkwilliams1013 0]

This is exactly why I joined this site, because just like raising a child- it takes a village! We have had several discussions about what life will be life after lap band. He wants to lose a little too, so I think we will be just fine and I'm worrying way too much about this. He can cook for himself if he needs to, and from what I understand after the mushy stages we should be able to eat much of the same foods, just different amounts of it. This has been very helpful!

[timetobefree 5]

I agree with everyone else. We eat pretty much the same stuff as before, I just eat a lot less of it.

For example, I just made beef and been enchiladas for dinner. DH ate 3 or 4 of them, and pre-op, I would have done the same. Tonight, however, I had 1/2 of one and was totally satisfied. DS (15 months) ate an entire one himself, while DD (2.5 years old) ate what she eats 90% of the time - pb&j. Sigh at the terrible twos.

Last night we had crab cakes (oh so yummy!), the night before we had pork tenderloin, sugar snap peas, and roasted potatoes. Seriously, I very, very rarely make something different for myself.

Good luck!

[NurseSophie 0]

My husband has been INCREDIBLE. The first month or so were the hardest for me emotionally so he often fixed food for him and our son. After that, I use our crockpot often. I really don't eat much at all of what he eats but I am hyper sensitive to sodium and fat makes me nauseous. This week, I started mixing up the extra tuna, chicken, or egg salad that I eat and he gladly eats it now too. I wish everyone had a guy like mine. :-)