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[weso631 0]

Hello everyone! My husband is about to be banded on June 2nd and he's beginning his pre-op Atkins diet tomorrow. He's extremely nervous about this whole process. I've been trying to convince him to join this forum because there is such a wealth of information & support here. I created this acct. for him in hopes that he will jump in soon.

My question for all of you....as a spouse, what is the best way I can support him in this journey? Is there anything I can do to help with the transition? What would you like your spouse/ significant other to know or understand? Anything I can tell him to calm his nerves?

I appreciate any advice or input you can give. :thumbup:

[CrabbyCrab 0]

Hi! Welcome and welcome to your husband!!! My husband was actually banded on May 6 (I was banded May 13). He had to do a liquid diet before and I did not. I know it's slightly different because I was also being banded, but encouragement and noticing all of his accomplishments helped a LOT. My husband had to do a 2 week Medifast liquid diet that I am astonished he stuck to! I just kept giving him the credit he deserved (and calling him a skinny bastard as he droped lb after lb) lol You'd be surprised how much noticing the little things (like saying "no" to a piece of cake with coffee) can add up.

My husband is also on the forum. I got him interested in it by me first telling him "I read this..." and "did you know..." and then I showed him the site. He followed for a little and then signed up.

If he's interested in another guy going through it let me know and I'll give you his screan name...I'm 30 and my husbands 35 so we're around your age too.

Best of luck to both of you!!!!!

[weso631 0]

That's great that you're both doing this together! I bet that helps a lot. Very good point about noticing the small accomplishments. We have a 2 & 3 yr old, so it's habit to constantly be praising them...so I just need to extend that same attitude towards my husband. :thumbup:

I will let him know that there is another guy on here around his age...that may help. I've been on birth boards, etc...so I think he has it in his mind that these forums are for women. lol

[CrabbyCrab 0]

haha...we had a destination wedding and I spent about a year addicted to one of those forums (it was hard to break it and I miss my friends, but it had to be done). look though and pull him over to show some "before"

and "after pictures. Especially of men :thumbup: It'll help him get excited about the changes coming.

Good luck!!