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So, last Friday, I met some friends at a bar after work. It was a last minute thing, so I didn't have any Protein Shakes with me. I had a couple of drinks and people started ordering bar food... I ate some of it. I could have gone on to "mushies" that day, so I legitimized my chewing the food really well. I haven't eaten anything but liquids since, but I can't let it go. I'm so afraid I screwed something up. I feel fine, but the guilt is killing me! I guess I'm looking for someone to tell me to get over it. I can't do anything about it now!

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I cheated as well and nothing bad happend. It isn't the end of the world so don't beat yourself up about it.

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Just each day work on better choices- and have shake powder or a ready-to-drink available at all times- keep one in the car or in your purse.

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Get over it. You can't do anything about it now. But, you know now that you need to be prepared with your Protein bars/shakes in the future. Also, another thing you could do is tell your friends, you have dinner plans but will meet them for drinks. Go get your band-approved dinner at home and then grab drinks after. You live, you learn. Its not gonna kill you. Hang in there. :)

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You already know they weren't the best choices. There's no place to go but forward, right? Really, guilt is wasted here. You deviated from an eating plan; you didn't murder your brother-in-law :)

I'm with Anne. Try to keep healthy options available. And always have a plan. Even if you don't have a Protein Shake on hand, it's usually possible to order food for any eating stage from almost any menu. You may have to ask the kitchen to modify menu items---but it can be done, and pretty easily.

If you're honest with yourself, you'll know that the real issue was that you wanted the bar food.< /p>

You just have to decide, before you even walk into a bar or restaurant, that you're going to stick with your plan, no matter what temptation comes your way.

Or, you can choose to make an exception. And that's okay--there's room in life for that. HOWEVER, I wouldn't recommend making many exceptions in this immediate postop period; diet is advanced slowly for important reasons.

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BetsyB has got it all down. I have been going out alot, even spontaneously. As soon as I know where I am going I head on the web and try and get as much info about the menu and nutrition as I can. Then I make my selections and stick to them.

I have fun, enjoy the time out, and feel good that I was able to make a much better decision than what I would have pre-band even if it the meal includes a few french fries.

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