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I was all set in my mind to have this surgery then I went to the seminar last night and everything changed now I'm scared and confused about wether its the right thing to do or not I have tried really hard in the past to lose weight and have but then I gain it all back and then some maybe I'm letting my fear get the best of me maybe i"m just scared about the surgery its self I don't know anymore everyone says its a decision I have to make on my own.

Has anyone ever been in this position before?I'm still excited about the surgery but scared to death that i"m making the wrong decision.did anyone else go thru this?

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You're definately not alone! I think most of us second guess before we have the surgery. I know I made a last minute call to my Doctor a few days before my surgery. I needed comfort in knowing that I was doing it for the right reasons. I ended up talking with my surgical nurse. She answered all my pre-surgery questions and helped put my mind at ease. I have been on every diet out there and lost and gained but never got even close to where I want to be. It's not about dieting, it's about retraining our brain and like any addiction, it's a process. The surgery is helping me by forcing me not to overeat. I am only 2 weeks+ post surgery and still learning but there are definate consequences after surgery if you overeat. Nothing earth shattering for me but it takes a lot less to fill me up and is way too uncomfortable to do so now so no choice but to eat less. I know this was the right decision for me and everyone is correct, only you can make that decision. Ask yourself this: " where will I be in 1,2 or 5 yrs. if I don't do this"?.:biggrin:

I was all set in my mind to have this surgery then I went to the seminar last night and everything changed now I'm scared and confused about wether its the right thing to do or not I have tried really hard in the past to lose weight and have but then I gain it all back and then some maybe I'm letting my fear get the best of me maybe i"m just scared about the surgery its self I don't know anymore everyone says its a decision I have to make on my own.

Has anyone ever been in this position before?I'm still excited about the surgery but scared to death that i"m making the wrong decision.did anyone else go thru this?

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I think it's completely normal to second guess yourself - I know I did. BUT - I'm 3 months post op and lapband was the absolute best decision I've made, regarding my health and mental well-being. I wish I would have done it earlier.

You will be fine - it's not the "easy" way out. It's work - but it's also work that's going to be successful for you!

ETA: I've lost 42 pounds in 3 months (42 pounds I know I won't "find" again)...so, yes, the results are worth it!

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My surgery date is June 3rd and I have questioned myself as well. I think its normal. But somethings that motivated me was reading success stories on this site as well as looking at other's before and after pictures. I was going to have this surgery when I was 18 years old... but I backed out. If i would have gotton the surgery when I was 18... I would be in a much better physical state right now. So I am not waiting any longer... Im ready to have a new me!

Try reading success stories... and any questions or concerns talking to your dr can really help. Or even talking to the people on this site is quite helpful.

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yep i was nervous as well....plus people kept telling me i could do it on my own. but it was obvious i hadn't been able to. so i talked to my husband and he said go for it i will support you all the way. i think this is what made me go along with my decision. now i am extremely happy i have lost 80 lbs and i still want to continue losing.

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thank you for all the advice.I actually filled out the paperwork that they gave me and put it in the envelope but I have'nt mailed it yet.Maybe thats progress I'm still scared but more of me than of the surgery.

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yes i felt really nervous and scared, but i went with it and now i am happy and excited to be losing weight!!! so go for it, you won't regret it:thumbup:goodluck!!!

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