So Upset

[onenuttynurse 0]

First you are in someway responsible for some of this.....YOU are letting them make it their business. If you don't make a big deal out of it, they will stop, guaranteed. Why would you put up with this sh*t in the first place? Tell them to back off. I wouldn't give them a dimes worth of my time, husband included(and thats why I don't have friends,,,LOL). The band is a great tool, use it and be proud of your life changing decision. As for that husband of yours...Shame on him...he needs a slap upside that stupid head of his.......onenuttynurse

[stargate713 0]

Everyone will probably hate me for this...but let me be the devil's advocate here. If things actually went down the way your husband said.....then it was actually your mother who slipped up (and innociently by the sounds of it). I think your husband may be taking a little too much heat on this. You asked him to keep a secret for you from his family, but when directly confronted by his father.....did you expect him to lie to his face? You put him in a rough spot of keeping your confidence or lying to his dad. Now if he had time to think it out, perhaps he might of said "I don't have the liberty to discuss it with you.....she has decided to keep her medical proceedure confidential". Sometimes when we are directly confronted, we react and don't have time to think things out. They indeed sound like unpleasent people.....but maybe they were thinking the worst like you had cancer or something else bad God forbid. These issues are all too common with in-laws, use this as an opportunity to open up a dialog with your husband on how hurtful his family's comments have been in the past. If you stay angry with your husband then you are just allowing his family drive a wedge between the 2 of you. Be strong.....you are a beautiful woman.....you can rise above their petty, critical attitudes.