can i do it??

[mommaforchange 0]

couple of days before surgery ...and freaking

I know Im going to have to talk to someone after surgery....but.

right now I still don't know what I want to do? I want the band...I have been waiting for over a year....Iv researched.... Im scared of the complications that can happen...

Im scared the band will not work for me.... so many pple say that if you eat allot of junk food the band is not for you??? that got me thinking?....if you didnt eat the wrong foods then how did you gain all the weight before your band?

my thoughts are all over the place? I really want this to work.

any advice? what made you go through with it? did you second guess your decision?

[TCarroll 1]

Hi there.... stop, and take a deep breath. Ok, first I am sure it is completely natural to have second thoughts when it comes to having surgery and a whole new way of eating and well... life!

But no I personally did not have a second thought. For one of the first times.. i didn't think about -- what if I fail... failure on this was not an option.. I looked at things differently, positively! That this tool is now going to help me be more like the "normal" people out there who can lose weight and keep it off... That I was gonna give it everything I had and follow the rules and let it benefit me. To be honest with you-- I really feel like this is why I have been a success. I have lost 90 lbs in 7 1/2 months. Now the true success will be me keeping off the weight but to be honest-- I don't think that will be a problem.... After I have been doing this for over 7 months now-- I have broken the bad eating habits and automatically eat the healthy things that my body needs. Don't get me wrong-- are there times that I want some chips or cheesecake-- SURE... and this is what "normal" people do...I have maybe a handful or a few bites - I am satisified and walk away.... I dont eat the whole bag or the whole freakin' cheesecake like before!

The bottom line-- (and I don't mean this to sound harsh) make up your mind that this is going to be a positive life change for you... a rebirth to being healthy and happy. Not whinning that you may never get to eat this food again or that food again... you will eat it-- in moderation.. the way you are supposed to... let's be honest... it's this whinning and poor me I can't eat this on my diet that got us all here in the first place...

Leave that in the past, you will now have a tool that helps limit the hunger we have... yes, I will be honest - you will still have to conquer your "head" hunger -- the annoying little voice that keeps telling you... you barely ate anything today-- I need food and I want chips and ice cream... so maybe, take a bite or two- and walk away... or drink some Water and realize how full you actually are and that it is just your head talking... not your stomach.

If you want this and are gonna go through a surgery - then do it... stop worrying about what if I fail... blah blah blah-- start saying -- wait to you see what a success I am!

The great thing is, you will start to see such a difference in how your clothes are fitting and on the scale... it is worth not eating the junk food... and soon enough-- your body doesn't want it anymore!

I am sorry if I seem rude, this is not what I am trying to do.. but I personally believe that going into this with a positive attitude instead of thinking of what you can't eat or whatever is what will help you succeed. I think of my band as a gift in which I don't want to take advantage of. I knew from day 1 -- this is gonna be some work-- the band isn't magic.. BUT this is that extra strength I needed and I AM going to be a success and make myself and family proud!

[amylovescookies 8]

This site is so crazy...I used to be known as COOKIELOVER, but I forgot my password, and my email account, so now I'm Amylovescookies.

I wrote this entry the day before my surgery, and I thought you might like it. I might help you get though this transformation, as it did me.

"I was lying in bed with my husband today and it occured to me that I would be breaking up with my lover tomorrow...my lover being food! Sure we can still be friends, as I will eat differently: smaller portions and paying more attention to what I am eating. But there is no more passionate eating! No more careless late night romps with ice cream! No more eat now and think later episodes. I will not be able to hide behind my fearless fork and spoon for comfort. I have had to admit that this relationship has been dangerous and harmful, and we should have broken it off sooner. But in all honesty he is so sweet at times and spicy at other times. He was always there when I needed him, and he always gave me what I thought I needed. It really wasn't FOODS fault it was my own. I am the one who took the relationship too far-I am the one who got into bed with FOOD. To be honest we should have just been friends from the start; I think I would have been happier that way. So at mid-night tonight I will tell FOOD that we can just be friends; no longer lovers...I know that FOOD will totally understand, but it will be me that will have the problem. I will have to fight the urge to call (or as some call it "drunk dial"...or we might call it "visiting the fridge"). I will have to stick to my resolution to stay strong and know that it was not a healthly relationship. When FOOD passes me on the street in such forms as chocolate, Cookies, tacos, cheese burgers, and hot wings I will have to resist the temption to run back into the arms of FOOD. I will just wave and say, "hello" as I drink my Protein shake.

"I am sorry that we have to break up FOOD, I think it is better for me that we just stay friends..."

[daqui26 4]

amy that was great, well said

mommaforchange....i second guessed all the way up to the day before. the morning of my surgery i felt it was right. you have to go with your feelings. i was a professional junk food eater lol....and im not that person anymore. i still have cravings but its all about changing your habits.

i wish you well on your decision

[LeighaMason 19]

couple of days before surgery ...and freaking

I know Im going to have to talk to someone after surgery....but.

right now I still don't know what I want to do? I want the band...I have been waiting for over a year....Iv researched.... Im scared of the complications that can happen...

Im scared the band will not work for me.... so many pple say that if you eat allot of junk food the band is not for you??? that got me thinking?....if you didn't eat the wrong foods then how did you gain all the weight before your band?

my thoughts are all over the place? I really want this to work.

any advice? what made you go through with it? did you second guess your decision?

I can give you my opinion but I need to ask a couple of questions first. What do you (mostly)eat now? Do you eat restaurant or fast food on a daily basis? How often do you cook? Are you a big sweet eater?