So It's True...Haters will emerge as you lose!

[kimaly 57]

I think what it boils down to is if they were a real friend they would be happy that your happy, and not act like a jealous child. I guess when I look back the person I thought was my best friend was always a little selfish and jealous when anything good happens to someone other then her. I guess I just didn't pay much attention to it and maybe I just notice it more now. So out with the old and in with the new. it's still hard to drift away from people you once cared so much about even if you can't figure out why you cared so much in the first place.

[kimaly 57]

Samantha,I must say I love your post, But the thing with me is I was about 20lbs lighter then the friend I'm talking about when I got my band. At first I just chalked it up to her maybe feeling a little left behind but as I stated in my prior post I think she's always been a little selfish and jealous of not just me but anyone that's doing well or better then her. I just wish I had paid more attention to it then before I invested so much time into our friendship. We have a mutual friend that has been gaining alot of weight due to new meds she's on and the girlfriend I'm talking about finds way to much pleasure in it and I just don't understand why. She went as far as to take a pic of our mutual friend just so she could see how much weight she's gained and try to prove that she was as big as her now. I think she's just a mean person and I just ignored it before for whatever reason. You don't go through life hurting others to make yourself feel better. Oh! and congrats on the size 10, WTG. I'm also a size 10 and loving it.

[samanthazzz 0]

Thank you Kim.

Funny thing about being fat. I noticed that I settled for a lot of things I am no longer willing to do. I settled for less pay, less sex, less time and money spent on myself. Maybe others settled for friends that were always mean and spiteful, but never saw it or didn't wish to.

I equate my friends, co workers, aquaintances as apples on my tree. Making the changes that comes with the band and losing weight have shaken the tree. The rotten apples have fallen off and only the nice, supportive and kind apples have remained.

Whether the rotten apples have always have worms or developed them after me losing weight is mute now. I have spent enough time worrying about other people's motivation.

All I know is I prefer the shiny red apples that make me healthier and happier....and red has always been my color!

I have so enjoyed reading your posts as well as the others. This forum is one of the few places that I can relate to.

Congrats on the size 10, can you believe it??????

Samantha