Its not always rainbows and butterflies...I NEED HELP!

[happy2lose 0]

thank you everyone for your input...i do appreciate it....

Ms. California, thanks for telling like it is....i'm so jealous of your california weather!

Anytime Bill! You and I both know what we need to do to change our lifestyles just as we know how we got to the point of obesity. Now we just need to get it done!:thumbdown:

[Whillow 0]

Your wife needs a attitude adjustment - she should be supposrtive and happy for the changes you have made and will continue to make - if my husband said something that made me feel they you do i would flip out.. crazy i tell you !!!

2 lbs a week is perfect - running is fabulous!!! I never exercised before this but i bought a gym membership 1 month ago and while i have not been in 3 days because of a horrible cold i was hitting it 5 days a week doing things i had never done, weights, eliptical.. and if i want a god damn cookie i have ONE!!!

im sorry, but your wife needs to look in the mirror and ask herself why she would say anything hurtful to with the progress you are making,, shame on her!

[minimeme 1]

I am doing free weights 3x a week. I really, really, reallyreallyreally dont want anymore surgery and if I can do anything/everything I can to keep from having to have cosmetic surgery after I reach goal I am going to do it.

Great your doing weights but I hate to tell you that it will not prevent saggy skin. Unfortunatly there is nothing we can do about that. No excersise, no cream. I too am hopeing I will not need plastic surgery. However, I will have it if it's needed.

My boyfriend lost almost 200lbs an has no sagging skin. I am gonna go by what he tells me to do and that way I know I did everything in my power.

Did you really not read my post or did you just want to act like I said it was a sure thing?

[mominkansas 2]

I disagree on working out not helping sagging skin. That being said it also depends on your age and how long you have been overweight. I have had friends loose over 100 pounds and look amazing. I think working out does help tone, I have even seen it on myself work.

[Queen Fig 0]

Hey Bill-

I read some of the other posts...I thought you were asking how you could get more support from your wife. I am not a psychiatrist...I just play one on TV (just kidding), but really, I know what you are dealing with. Your success is great, but not feeling completely supported...criticized even. I know that when I lose weight, some people start acting crazy. Whether they act jealous or irritated or annoyed, it's a very negative reaction. I think it comes down to the fact that you are changing and change can be very difficult. I think about how I would feel if my hubby started running and losing weight and eating less...it would throw me for a tail spin. I think I would be a little scared!

Focus on your feelings and if you are happy, just keep doing what you are doing. Want to lift weights? Lift weights. If you don't, then don't. If you are happy with your running...let it be. You are making progress and that is what your goal is.

Good luck!

Beth