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So down and out...

I was so happy when I got my approval, but for the past couple of days I have been a little down about it. I know that I need to do this because I have had no long lasting success on my own and it's just a matter of time before I have serious health issues because of my weight.

I am grateful to have the most awesome support from my family and my dear best friend!! I am also grateful that I have medical insurance and that they are paying for this!!

To sum it up...I feel like such a failure because I can't lose the weight without having surgery to help me.

I just want to know if this is a normal feeling? :w00t: Have any of you felt this way?

Thanks for letting me get this off my chest :)

Tealeaves

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its very, very normal

2 days before surgery i broke down and cried, sobbed becuase i felt like such a failure that i had to have someone/some thing 'help' me lose the weight i gained

i got it together sucked it up and realized how thankful i am i have some one - some thing to help me AND that I realized I needed the tool.

Once I put my mind to it (for the 2nd time) I was ready to roll and I have not regretted

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You are by no means a failure. Isn't that what the majority of dieters do? Lose weight only to gain it all, plus more?

The band is a tool that has helped me keep off the weight I've lost. It's a silent partner; we work as a team. I think you're doing a good thing for your body in that you will no longer be losing and regaining weight,

And you will have this partner with you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, unlike anyone you could meet and work out with at a gym.

There's nothing like feeling the difference when the weight starts coming off, and you know the scale can continue to go down.

You're definitely no failure, though you can become a big loser! :hug:

Debbie

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TINAM & SERENITY55...Thank You for responding!! I so appreciate your kind and encouraging words!!

Today, I spent all day at a family gathering and everyone was so supportive of my decision. I can't even begin to tell you how much better I feel... From this point forward I am going to tweek my thoughts, suck it up and move forward with a positive attitude!!

I am truly Blessed!!

Hugs,

Tealeaves

p.s. Serenity55... My first apartment was in Van Nuys many, many years ago!!

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Tealeaves, be sure to keep us posted. Your surgery is coming up pretty fast, so I'll be looking forward to finding out how you're doing.

I know you have lots of support from family and your best friend, and that is fantastic! So did I.

But if you ever need to talk to another bandster, please don't hesitate.

By the way, I've lived in Van Nuys for quite some time, and I like where I'm living now. We could have been neighbors! :w00t:

Debbie

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