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The Guilt of Being a Slow Loser



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I know that it's been a while since anyone visited this thread but I would like to revisit as I am having a lot of the same issues with being a slow loser and the guilt is horrific for me. I have had a lot of medical issues this year...banding followed by a surgical site infection, followed by appendectomy, followed by gallbladder removal and just plain loss of motivation after all of it. I gained 4 lbs after my last surgery but otherwise it's been all forward progress. I only started getting any restriction at all this February and have lost about 12 lbs since then. I went to the doc's office on Tuesday and found out that I have only lost, get this, 32 lbs in a year. I am happy for that believe me but when I know I've been exercising my a** off literally, eating correctly, after realizing I was eating too damn much, I saw a 1 lb only loss. I broke down in the office which I haven't done at all throughout the entire last year's ordeal.

Saying that, I have noticed, and so has everyone else, a change in my body. Smaller bra size, smaller blouse size 2x-3x to an XL and I went from a size 20 to 16 pants. This is a good thing really but my mind tells me I'm failing when I don't see the numbers moving. My doc told me that I am losing fat and building muscle which is just as or more important than seeing the numbers move. I felt better after that and I'm wondering if other slow losers like me are experiencing the same thing. If it matters I have a Realize band with 9.5 CC's in a 12CC band.

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I am happy I have found this forum. I too am a slow loser. I was banded Dec. 2009 and have only lost 30 pounds thus far. I am getting back on track. I gained 15 of the 30 pounds I lost but I am happy to say that in a month and a half I am back at my oringinal 30 pound loss. I believe we can do it. We just have to stay motivated and keep moving forward.

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