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Its been about 6 weeks post op but I would like to hear from others how they are dealing with the emotions of eating. I'm sure there are others like me who eat through their emotions. Lonely, bored or childhood issues for example. I've been to a coulple of psycologists but their approach wasen't helping me to address my feelings. It may be that I don't have a significant other and feel that I can't talk on a dep level with family since we are not close that way. What type of therpist would people suggest?

All responses welcomed:thumbup:

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I was in therapy years ago trying to deal with my eating issues. Finally stopped because there was nothing left but to "do it". But I never did. When I started thinking about having lapband surgery I decided to start seeing a therapist. So, in October 2008 I started seeing an obesity specialist and I had my surgery in June 2009. My therapist has been extremely helpful, mostly because I am conscious of when I am trying to fight the process. She would give me feedback and I would tell her why I couldn't do it. Eventually I realized that I needed to listen to someone other than myself. So I stopped saying "I can't" and started saying "I can do that".

Let me tell you, it works! Last night I was in tears because one thing after the other was going wrong and I had been to visit my mom in the convalescent home and I was very sad. The sadness turned to anger and I gave myself a headache crying. Now, I still had to stop at the grocery store to pick up something for dinner. I credit therapy with being able to see my favorite slice of chocolate cake and saying "how is that going to help?". And passing the Tostitos and saying "that's not going to help either". And being able to leave the store with what I intended -- salad stuff. I have changed my thinking for the most part. I still struggle but not nearly as much.

Hang in there and good luck!

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Its been about 6 weeks post op but I would like to hear from others how they are dealing with the emotions of eating. I'm sure there are others like me who eat through their emotions. Lonely, bored or childhood issues for example. I've been to a coulple of psycologists but their approach wasen't helping me to address my feelings. It may be that I don't have a significant other and feel that I can't talk on a dep level with family since we are not close that way. What type of therpist would people suggest?

All responses welcomed:thumbup:

I'm dealing with the same problem. I'm four weeks post-op. I thought I had it all figured out, I guess I don't. I thought that having this surgery was going to be the answer to my sugar addiction, and emotional eating, I thought it would help me control it. Having very little band resisitance the feeling of fullness is not there yet, granted I'm not eating anywhere near what I did before but the guilt is still overwhelming. On a positive note...I went and bought myself an ipod today and a pass to an indoor walking track, so at least now I can get some exercise without freezing to death outside.

Forums like this will help us, we can all support each other. We've all been in the same place.

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And just when you think you have conquered it like I thought I had something comes up and hits you in the head like what recently happened in my life. A good friend of the family has been given just days to live. She lives far away from my home and I cannot visit her right now. I am so upset about that yes, you guessed it, I turned to my comfort zone, food. I went in for a small fill day before yesterday because I had been overfilled and had to be deflated a small amount and then wait to get refilled until recently so I found out the horrible news and began to eat. The swelling went down and I wasn't restricted enough and I ate with my head. Fortunately, I didn't do much damage. I gained a couple of pounds but have lost them already. But, I got to thinking about it and realized I had turned to food without so much as a glimpse at the reason I got my band in the first place. I really had to shake myself out of it. It isn't easy and not a miracle cure for eating. Good Luck!

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