My husband wants to get banded too and i am concerned...

[AZSunshine 0]

Aww, what a tough spot to be in. Sounds to me like the biggest problem might potentially be a breakdown in communication.

It sounds as though he has some insecurities that he needs to work through. You can give him all the reassurance in the world, but until he works through them himself, it's not going to do much good.

I would encourage you to lay it all on the table, in a non-confrontational way. Politely express your concerns.... ask him what his thoughts are, and what he's expecting to come out of your surgery, etc. Reinforce the fact that you guys are a team.... and that you both need eachother to depend on for support, etc.

It's fantastic if he wants to get the band and improve his health.... but only if he's doing it for the RIGHT reasons.

Good luck, I hope you guys get everything squared away.

[krstjump03 0]

i just want to thank you all for your wonderful suggestions. Since this post, I have spoken with my husband about my concerns. He was totally open to what I had to say and was really trying to understand where i was coming from. I think that whether or not he gets banded, I really believe that he will be that support that i need.